I am new here but I keep seeing posts by people who are freaking out or becoming devastated to learn they have herpes. In 1983 I was diagnosed with genital herpes. I thought the world was over for me. I felt dirty, disgusted and unlovable. I was 23 then. I have lived a whole lot of life since then, in fact, I'll be 51 tomorrow. I just wanted people to know that herpes is NOT the worst thing that has happened to me. I am, indeed, quit lovable. It is almost a non-issue these days. Is it difficult when starting a relationship to disclose that you have genital herpes? Hell yes, but I also find that the people who genuinely care for me
, do not run. They ask questions and are more than willing to learn. I was kind of, ok, definitely promiscuous in my early 20's. Years later it occurred to me that herpes had saved my life. (If you don't mind a history lesson- The HIV-Aids virus was just rearing it's ugly head and even the CDC and government didn't quite know what it was. It was a very scary time.) I'm just wanted any newly infected people to have faith and trust this old lady, life goes on and it is so good!