Re: no luck dating with herpes
Yes, the stigma is ridiculous and not truly called for.
Empower yourself by educating yourself on herpes, especially care, treatment, prevention of outbreaks; and explain to your potential partners that there are ways to prevent their getting herpes.
There are groups online with the sole purpose of elevating people's awareness and behavior around the prevalence of STIs that also promote seminars at colleges campuses and other places where young people gather. There are so many people that have sexually transmitted infections and do not even know it; there are also loads of people so affected by the associated stigma that they do not get care and do nothing to prevent spreading the infections; and there are people whose attitude is that sex is a risk and everyone gets whatever they deserve. The purpose of the groups promoting education and self-empowerment is to help all of us learn where our fears and misunderstanding are causing the problem and to begin to end the problem by addressing it openly.
I might add that if you became involved in the education campaigns, you would likely meet some very intelligent and hip potential partners....certainly a lot of great people that would make really good friends.