Here's my story: I been having sex with my exboyfriend from the beginning of 2003 to about May 2004. We had had unprotected sex like maybe 3 times although he did pull out before he ejaculated. November of last year, a few warts had developed which i knew were an STD so I freaked out. He had no symptoms at all. Along with the genital warts I started bleeding from intercourse. I had no idea what it was. I did go to a clinic just to get treated for my warts before they spread. I musta went like once a week for like a month. Anyways at that point I didnt mention the bleeding, and the lady did suggest to get a pap smear. So I did....my results came back near the end of the year....and they found that I had chlamydia as well. They gave me pills for it which i took right away. I had then told my bf at the time that i obviously got it from him (hes the only one i been with ) and to go get checked out for EVERYTHING including HIV which i was too scared to get tested myself. He did go to the clinic, got the stuff for the chlamidya then later he told me that everythign was fine and he was hiv negative. So I was relieved. Now almost a year later, the whole HIV thing came back to haunt me. I was just doing some research on symptoms and stuff just for the heck of it. Then I saw swollen lymph nodes which literally terrified me. All i know is during that period I was being treated for my warts and chlaymidia was present, i had a swollen node on my armpit, then it went away after a couple days, then right after I got one in my groin area which freaked me out at the time but it went away after 2-3 days so I didnt think much of it after. Other then that I can't recall any other symptoms. So now its been about 3 weeks since i started really worrying. I called up my ex and totally went bizark, he said I was crazy, and confirmed that he was negative and said he even has the paper, but I never saw it. We really havent talked since then. He has cheated on me, and I know after hes been with alot of women in the past..and he obviously had unprotected sex with soem of them or else he would have never got the STDS. The answers to his past can only be answered from him but he has not been honest with me from other things, and I dont know what to believe and what not to believe including if he really got tested for HIV. Sorry for makin this soo long. I ordered a hometest about 2 weeks ago off ebay..and its still not here, and im really goin crazy. Also i been soo stressed and anxious the last 3 weeks, that i started feelin off and on mild pain in my hands and wrists which now im thinkin is HIV related. Then just a couple days ago I had a swollen node once again on my armpit that has now went away. Just for a fact ever since the STD and lymph node incident, until 3 weeks ago, I experienced no pain or symptoms. I'm really goin crazy, adn cant function properly....I just want to know:
1. Can those swollen glands Ive experienced be from my Stds (warts/chlamydia)
2. Do all guys pre-***, and if so, is it as risky as ejaculate
3. Why would i get a swollen gland like a year later (can it be from stress?)
Any other info or comments on anything would be greatlly appreciated.
Here's my story: I been having sex with my exboyfriend from the beginning of 2003 to about May 2004. We had had unprotected sex like maybe 3 times although he did pull out before he ejaculated. November of last year, a few warts had developed which i knew were an STD so I freaked out. He had no symptoms at all. Along with the genital warts I started bleeding from intercourse. I had no idea what it was. I did go to a clinic just to get treated for my warts before they spread. I musta went like once a week for like a month. Anyways at that point I didnt mention the bleeding, and the lady did suggest to get a pap smear. So I did....my results came back near the end of the year....and they found that I had chlamydia as well. They gave me pills for it which i took right away. I had then told my bf at the time that i obviously got it from him (hes the only one i been with ) and to go get checked out for EVERYTHING including HIV which i was too scared to get tested myself. He did go to the clinic, got the stuff for the chlamidya then later he told me that everythign was fine and he was hiv negative. So I was relieved. Now almost a year later, the whole HIV thing came back to haunt me. I was just doing some research on symptoms and stuff just for the heck of it. Then I saw swollen lymph nodes which literally terrified me. All i know is during that period I was being treated for my warts and chlaymidia was present, i had a swollen node on my armpit, then it went away after a couple days, then right after I got one in my groin area which freaked me out at the time but it went away after 2-3 days so I didnt think much of it after. Other then that I can't recall any other symptoms. So now its been about 3 weeks since i started really worrying. I called up my ex and totally went bizark, he said I was crazy, and confirmed that he was negative and said he even has the paper, but I never saw it. We really havent talked since then. He has cheated on me, and I know after hes been with alot of women in the past..and he obviously had unprotected sex with soem of them or else he would have never got the STDS. The answers to his past can only be answered from him but he has not been honest with me from other things, and I dont know what to believe and what not to believe including if he really got tested for HIV. Sorry for makin this soo long. I ordered a hometest about 2 weeks ago off ebay..and its still not here, and im really goin crazy. Also i been soo stressed and anxious the last 3 weeks, that i started feelin off and on mild pain in my hands and wrists which now im thinkin is HIV related. Then just a couple days ago I had a swollen node once again on my armpit that has now went away. Just for a fact ever since the STD and lymph node incident, until 3 weeks ago, I experienced no pain or symptoms. I'm really goin crazy, adn cant function properly....I just want to know:
1. Can those swollen glands Ive experienced be from my Stds (warts/chlamydia)
2. Do all guys pre-***, and if so, is it as risky as ejaculate
3. Why would i get a swollen gland like a year later (can it be from stress?)
Any other info or comments on anything would be greatlly appreciated.
THANKS SOO MUCH
OK, take a big breath
1) swollen lymph nodes can occur for so many reasons, including the ones you mentioned. You could swell up from cutting your finger, or just because your body is fighting some small random infection. The lymph nodes in my armpit used to swell on me when I wore a certain type of deoderant.
2)I think all guys pre-***, however, some a lot more than others, etc. As far as it being safer, maybe a little bit, but not enough to really substanciate some huge difference
3) refer back to 1). My armpits also get a little sore before my period. It could also have to do with hormones. There are countless reasons honestly.
I really wouldnt worry too much. If you had no other partners, and he tested negative, then obviously, you're negative. However, I really would never trust someone else's status to determine your own. Its like trusting someone else with your life. Knowing that he tested negative should be good incentive and backing for you to be confident in testing. I know its difficult, but I think sometimes stress can kill ya quicker People dont really realize how badly prolonged stress can damage your system, its the number one cause of so many illnesses....just because people stop taking care of themselves. Go get tested, it will give you a new outlook on life
thanks for your input...really appreciated!
Anyone else have anything to say??
Your swollen lymph nodes are probably from Chlamydia. I had it once, and was scared too. I think I had swollen nodes for about a week. Then it went away after treatment.
Okay realx. Take this from someone who has swollen lymph nodes for over 2 years.
I will be honest with you with whatever I provide.
You did place your self in a risk. You did your self a good favor by going to the clinic and getting tested for everything. I am suprise why they did not do a HIV 1 test.
Following test should be done on you:
do you have insurance, if so go to your doctor and tell him you wish to get test for,
Gonorreha - I dont think so, becuase your Chlamydia meds will clear this on out.l
HIV 1 - eia, - I dont think you have HIV at all.
Herpes 1 & 2 - get checked for this one. Type 1 everyone has it.
Hep B - Do get this test done.
Syphills (you would know if you had this) - I dont think so.
CMV - This might be something you may have gotten
EBV - Possible
Mycoplasma - Very Very possible since you had Chlamydia
Human Herpes 6, 7, 8 - may be if you feel fatigue and chronic stuff
Lympocyte Panel - Get this. It will show CD 4 & CD 8 counts.
Please get all of those tested. If all negative including CMV and EBV, your good to go.
on to your story : Can Hiv be concern ? Yes, but I dont think so. HIV is not easy to get. If so and its been over 3 months, go get test you and you will know for sure. Go to your doctors and ask for EIA HIV 1 test ( 99.9 percent accurate).
Lymph Nodes can be swollen for several reason: CMV or mycoplasma (I think you got this one ), other infection.
- I had same exposure as you did with a girl I met. It was my first time, I came down with Herpes 1 & 2, CMV, Human Herpes 6, prostate infection. All that in one time. I was the unlucky person.
HIV was negative several time. My lympcytes are always high, it means my body is fighting infection. Doctors think its the herpes virus.
But anyways, yes I still get lymph nodes pain.
I dont want to scare you or anything, but Please get those test done. And let me know how it goes.
If you want to talk to me personal one on one, than let me know please, becuase I am here to help you.
I went through the same stuff. I get pains in armpit (alot) , neck and groin area.
I dont think you have HIV at all.
You may have
CMV, EBV , or Mycoplasma. Please check. Let me know if this helped you at all.
As for your bf, dont ask him anything because there is no point of asking since no one is honest when it comes to all this.
does it make you feel less of a person ? No no way. you are the same, have courage.
Please do not fall into stress phase.
I been stress for last 2 years and my life was living hell until I took in charge of it.
thank you so much for your advise guys. So i finally get my Home Access test in the mail (it was soo late arriving...arggg). Anyways I got to open it and go to register..but the number doesnt work. So Im like great I live in Canada so cant do it. So I emailed them, and she gave me a number to call and also told me Id have to pay for Fed xpress via canada post which is liek almost $50. I said screw it, we have healthcare here, its jus I would prefer doing at private test. So yesterday I went to the clinic and once again got tested for All STDs just to be on the safe side..and I finally got the courage to go get my HIV blood test done. They also did a blood test for syphilis...I guess that how u diagnose it. It usually takes a couple weeks for results, but it'll probably take longer this time of year because of the holidays. I felt so relieved today though..that I finally got the blood work done. Now I just have to wait for teh results which is scary because I went to a walk in clinic, and walk in clinics will only call you if something is wrong. So if i receive a call back from them telling me to come see them, I'll be completely freaking out thinking HIV even though it could be anything else they tested me for that was positive. I'm going to wait for about 3 weeks and if I dotn receive a call back, it will be a good sign, but I will still call to confirm everything is good.....I just have to hear those words to be satisfied. Well I wish everyone happy holidays and Ill let u guys now how everything goes.
And to Ben, I just read your posting today, and didn't get tested for all those other things, but I should becasue I keep feeling theres somethign wrong with me. Ill do it in the new year.....after i get the results from my tests.
Well just wanted to let everyone know I tested Negative for everything. Even after I got my blood test, I felt more relieved and gradually stopped worrying. It was weird, usually people are very anxious during the waiting period, but i took the blood test a cple months after i started worrying, so the test was a relief in itself. I was a wreck last year..I would cry, and like many other pple, would be obsessed with looking up HIV on the net, and reading the symptoms over and over again, and looking at the odds of catching this diseases, and even looked at how to deal wiht HIV, and how you would have a baby etc, etc. And of course the message boards, must of read everything on this board and anohter HIV message board site over and over again. I was lilke HIV crazy. I did learn my lesson. I never felt soo scared before in my life. I cried an prayed. So right now I'm still young, and decided I'm not going to have sex again until im married. I have a second shot at this, and this experience really opened my eyes and made me think. I'm glad I went through it to prevent future stupidity in carlessnous. The boards are a good support system, when you have nobody to turn to. My advice, just think before you act, and you won't have to go through this torture. I wish everyone best of luck with everything, and hope everything goes well. take care
People dont really realize how badly prolonged stress can damage your system, its the number one cause of so many illnesses....just because people stop taking care of themselves. Go get tested, it will give you a new outlook on life 
