I'm considering dating someone who is HIV positive. He's a terrific guy. I really like him a lot. But I'm hesitant to fall in love or want to get intimate with someone I have to constantly be on guard with for medical reasons. I'm hesitant and scared. For example, I researched if HIV can be transmitted with open mouth kissing. The answer I found was yes, if you have an open sore or bit your tongue or your lip, etc. Well, I have a bad habit of chewing on the inside of my mouth/lips when I'm bored and sometimes bleed if I bite too hard. I've kissed the man in question and now I'm scared I might have gotten infected. Is this relationship something I should just stay away from?? Any thoughts?
Yeh, I think you've answered your own question. Unless you're willing to become a devoted partner to someone who's life may (and I emphasize "may") be shorter than your own...unless you're willing to see him through the ups and downs of the disease, the fears, the anxieties, the cost, then this may not be the relationship for you. Of course, the obverse is also true, is he willing to partner with you through your illnesses, your ups and downs, your stroke, your Parkinson's disease, your cancer, as well as your fears, anxieties and costs? Seems like you two have a lot to talk about. chris
Last edited by last1; 07-18-2005 at 07:32 PM.
I have been HIV positive for 18 years. I have been with my partner for 14 of those years. He is negative. Enough said. You worry too much. Be careful what you do sexually and you can have a loving, wonderful relationship.
Ok. Let's get technical. HIV positive for 18 yrs. Lover is negative. Been together for 14 years. We do not engage in anal sex. We kiss, deep kiss, oral. It's all good. You need the right partner. His or your being HIV positive or negative should not be the issue. Love but be careful. That's the key.