I spent the last several days on the web searching for info on my possible exposure to HIV. I am very worried!!! I just found this site (Healthboards.com) tonight and have spent the last 2-3 hrs reading through the HIV threads. I think you all are wonderful people
(especially the Senior Veterans) for providing such thoughtful and sensitive support in this time of need for so many of us.
In the heat of a very stupid moment, I had unprotected oral-receptive and vaginal sex with a woman in her late 40's to early 50's. I am sure she has had many unprotected-sex partners. But not sure if she's HIV+. The reason I mention her age is because she is probably post-menapausal. From what I have read, I understand that man-to-man, or man-to-woman sex is more likely a direction for contraction than woman-to-man. I think I also read that the main reason for a possible woman-to-man contraction is because the woman was between the 7-21 day period of her menstration. In other words, blood is a much better conduit than vaginal secretion. Is this correct?
Also, I was very nervous so had trouble keeping an erection. I finished very quickly; actual penetration lasted maybe three minutes. Does this have any bearing on the situation?
I guess I'm just trying to make myself feel better about this whole situation and trying not to go out of my mind! I am in a very loving relationship and have not told her. It was an enormous mistake that I, for better or for worse, will learn from. But I know we can't have unprotected sex until I am tested, right? Would like to just put this whole thing behind me. It will be very difficult to tell her.
Can anyone discuss the likelihood of my being contracted and if I should definitely worry? Its been only six days. What should I do? What steps should I take? Three months is a long ways.
Thank you very much for your help.