I am a 21 year old male, and I had unprotected sex with a female almost 3 months ago. I have heard that she likes to sleep around alot and I didnt know that when I met her, but I am scared that I have HIV/AIDs because I was with her. I got sick about 3 weeks ago and went to the hospital and was diagnosed with Influenza Type B, and I have been reading that getting sick early after exposure is what happens sometimes, but I dont know if that could be a sign of HIV/AIDS or not,since they diagnosed me with that at the hospital. I also have swolen lymph nodes in my neck just two, and I was wondering if that had something to do with HIV?AIDs or if I am just going to have them for a couple or three weeks or so since I got over the flu like 2 or 3 weeks ago. My sexual contact with this girl only lasted about 30 seconds, then I ran back home went to the bathroom and washed my penis very hard for quite a while. I am just scared, very scared and am looking for some guidance on does it sound like I could have it or what do you think. I am terrified because I dont want anything bad to happen to me it was a really big mistake and I regret it everyday, I want to be a dad someday and love a long life and I am scared for that now. Please help. I also want to add that I have never had sex with anyone else ever in my whole life besides this girl. It was a one night mistake. When I went to the hospital i went to the ER and was there for 3 hrs and was given a mono, flu, and strep test. I still have swolen glands from the flu which I havent had for almost 3 weeks now, but i still have a stuffy nose at times and I also have allergies, is there anything that I can look at that is positive. I am really scared please any advice would really help. Thank You.
I really think you are unnecessarily worried and frightened. From what you state, your chances of getting HIV are pretty slim, I would say. Stressing out over everything slows down your healing process.
I have allergies right now too - it's springtime - that's not unusual for people.
You can read the thread PLEASE READ IF YOU HAVE HAD A QUESTIONABLE EXPOSURE by 'nyxin' (second or third down from the top of the HIV/AIDS page) and if you read it all the way through to the end you will see that the circumstances are IN YOUR FAVOR (not to have been exposed.) That's good news.
You are panicking right now and I understand that feeling. I've had it too but, remember, the stress and panic will not help you feel better. Try meditating on what is good in your life.
If it's been 3 months since your exposure, you can go have the HIV test and know for sure whether you're infected with it. Either way, people are leading healthy lives who have HIV. I have a friend who will be visiting next week and he's been HIV+ for 10 years. He's doing well and says that he doesn't even have to take his medications at this time (because the doctor says he's doing so well.)
Also, since this was your first sexual experience I would say that you have some guilt about what/how it happened. You could go talk to a counselor.
There should be some social services/community services available in your city. Call the hotline number that is listed in the 'nyxin' info that I mentioned.
Good luck and hang in there. I think you'll be okay!