I'm about to kill myself, PLS HELP! - HIV Prevention Message Board

4cheddar · 04-18-2007, 12:37 PM

I've been reading around this site for about a month but I need some feedback please.

Here's the story. Dec. 18 I had unprotected sex with a chick I worked with. She gave me oral sex for about 1 minute then she got on top...I stopped it after about 1-2 minutes. That was the only time I had sex with her. I then quit my job and lost contact with the woman.

I'm scared as hell, because she has probably been around the block. I got check out the next day for HIV, AIDS, gonnarea, spyhills, and clymadiea. That made no use, so I got tested again, this time also for herpes at the 3 month mark(around March 15) once again everything was Negative. I'm still neverous...So I got checked out about a week ago(close to the 4 month mark) for HIV with a rapidHIV test and it was negative. I'm still freaking out. I've gotten back with my girl and we've started having sex and a couple of times we didn't use a condom. She says I'm just losing my mind and I'm safe...I need some insight from people here. Please let me know what my chances are. I read everywhere on the net and different sites say different things about the window period. Please help me.

I'm scared because I keep thinking I have all these symtoms like: sore throat(doctor said I had slight Strep Throat), small little pimples about 5 so far have popped up on my arm, and my skin on my finger tips has started peeling this past week.

What are the chances of me having HIV, Herpes or anything else at the 4 month mark????

Thank you,
~Crazy~

smiteler · 04-18-2007, 01:19 PM

calm down,you are negative,believe in your tests!
they are the most accurate and best way to know your status
and if they say no,you are safe. your symptoms mean nothing towards your hiv status so they are from your anxeity or from something else
not hiv. your chances are 0,nada,zilch and even more so because you don't even know if your partner is positive to begin with.
relax and enjoy your self and put your fears to rest
good luck

4cheddar · 04-18-2007, 01:24 PM

Thanks, it's just I'm scared as hell because so many sites say different things.

Is 3 months a definite timeline for all other STDS?

smiteler · 04-18-2007, 01:43 PM

other stds i believe are conclusive alot sooner then 3 months.
hiv is the longest.
don't believe alot that you read,there is alot of misinformation out there
alot of it is from being uninformed and out of fear.
imo they shouldn't even list symptoms because all they do is raise people's fears and once they do that then everything they think of or see is magnified
and they think they are infected no matter what you tell them.
the tests are very accurate and they work well, a couple of zits and a sore throat isn't gonna change the results. you should be fine!
good luck again

fairydust7 · 04-18-2007, 04:15 PM

Listen to smiteler, he knows what he's talking about. And also from personal experience, when we get scared that we might be sick with something that isn't completely curable or doesn't have good outcomes all the time (like even when someone convinces themselves they must have cancer before they've even seen a doctor, or hiv or what have you), we start micro-examining every single thing our body does. I started to do this when the thought crossed my mind that I could have hiv, but I finally made myself sit down one night and truly think it over and all my supposed symptoms are things I have had since a child or things that also happen when I'm under a lot of stress, and obviously worrying myself sick about hiv is stressful to my body. If you can't get your mind off it, why not try picking up a new hobby or learning to meditate so when you get into a bad cycle of thinking about it you can learn to stop that? That's what I've done, I've began meditating and it's helping me a lot.

And if you still can't put your mind at ease with all these negative tests, do what a friend of mine has done (she had a late stage aids patient bleed a lot onto to her, and then a couple of years later went on a self destructive streak for several years, so she was pretty high risk), she just asks her doctor to give her an hiv test every year. She knows by now it would have shown up, but it helps her to keep a peace of mind about it anyway.