i have good news,bad news and things you should know.
first off herpes does not turn into hiv.
when someone is infected with hiv it is common for other std's to piggyback with it.(hep and herpes and others ect.)
next,you cannot determine that you are infected with hiv by looking at any symptoms,the only way to determine your status is by getting tested.
so stop worrying over symptoms towards hiv its a waste of time.
you had a partner that you can't trust so your at risk for hiv.
if the worst happens and your positive your life will not be over,you will be around for your kids,the drugs now will keep you alive for a long time.
so put those fears to rest. just so you know 10 years later i'm still out kickin #$% and taking prisoners lol.
there is a great chance you are negative, so don't be down
good luck with your test