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Old 06-22-2011, 05:47 AM   #1
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Am I at risk? :(

Hi, I have an important question to ask and will appreciate a clear answer please. I had an oil massage last night and had sex with the person who performed the massage right after. I used a Durex condom. I am very concerned as it seems that massage oil could damage the condom. But here are important points: 1- I cleaned the oil on my sex with Kleenex just before putting on the condom. (but did not wash) 2- I had a premature ejaculation and maximum intercourse time was one minute. 3- The condom didn't break and I could not see any apparent damage after intercourse was done and it contained all the sperm.

I am very afraid and would like to know if I am at any (high, med, low, no) risk ?
Would you please have the kindness to answer to this question ?

Best regards and thanks in advance.


PS: I feel so afraid I did not sleep last night

 
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Re: Am I at risk? :(

the only worry you wiould have is if the condom failed.
oils can make certian condoms fail prematurely
but it didn't happen in your case because you
would of known.
so you should have no worries about getting hiv.
good luck

 
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Old 06-22-2011, 07:51 AM   #3
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Re: Am I at risk? :(

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the only worry you wiould have is if the condom failed.
oils can make certian condoms fail prematurely
but it didn't happen in your case because you
would of known.
so you should have no worries about getting hiv.
good luck
First of all a very big thanks for your relply. After reading this
Forum a little I saw that a lot of paranoia is going on and maybe
I am one of those! But this damn virus is scary and so it's understandable
to be afraid. I think I was taken by a weird panic attack last night as
I was sweating and chilling and fast heart beat and could not sleep
All night. I read on another site that oil makes micro holes on a condom
that eye can't see but viruses can pass! So I was about to just sit and cry!
Well at least there was a good lesson from last night! Stop messing arround!
If I can't stand the pain of being afraid I am not going to stand catching it.

 
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Re: Am I at risk? :(

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The condom didn't break and I could not see any apparent damage after intercourse was done and it contained all the sperm
This means that you were completely safe. If the condom was damaged it would have failed catastrophically due to the stress/friction of intercourse, meaning the head of your penis would be exposed. There is no need to worry about this encounter.

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I read on another site that oil makes micro holes on a condom
that eye can't see but viruses can pass! So I was about to just sit and cry!
This is misinformation. There is no such thing. Condom failure is always obvious.

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Old 06-22-2011, 08:59 AM   #5
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Re: Am I at risk? :(

Well million thanks guys.
I now think at least I will not die from being scared!
I am right now on holiday and in my hotel in Thailand
and this vacation suddenly became a nightmare! Last
night did not sleep till morning and did not get out of
my hotel room all day I gonna go grab something
to eat now

 
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Re: Am I at risk? :(

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Well million thanks guys.
I now think at least I will not die from being scared!
you wouldn't die if you got hiv either ?
the meds they have today keep it very much under control
still,its not something you would want.

as long as you have safe sex
you should not have to worry about hiv at all.
good luck

 
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Re: Am I at risk? :(

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you wouldn't die if you got hiv either ?
Well actually what I meant was that I could die from being afraid! You can't imagine how a scared guy (probably an insane scared one!) can feel!
So probably the pain of being afraid was more then the real thing!

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Re: Am I at risk? :(

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Well million thanks guys.
I now think at least I will not die from being scared!
I am right now on holiday and in my hotel in Thailand
and this vacation suddenly became a nightmare! Last
night did not sleep till morning and did not get out of
my hotel room all day I gonna go grab something
to eat now
Well you had sex which on its own carrys no risk in the manner you describe. You may feel guilty for what you did for what ever reason, but its time to enjoy your holiday as you didnt have any risk at all. So just enjoy your holiday buds, you have nothing to worry about.
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Re: Am I at risk? :(

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Well actually what I meant was that I could die from being afraid! You can't imagine how a scared guy (probably an insane scared one!) can feel!
So probably the pain of being afraid was more then the real thing!
nope,your wrong about me
i can imagine quite well
because i have hiv

nothing will give you more fear
then having hiv and there is no way
for you to know otherwise unless you have hiv yourself!

 
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Old 06-22-2011, 11:49 AM   #10
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Re: Am I at risk? :(

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nope,your wrong about me
i can imagine quite well
because i have hiv

nothing will give you more fear
then having hiv and there is no way
for you to know otherwise unless you have hiv yourself!

First of all you are an exceptionally kind and great person who help others
not to have same experience as you.
Its also amazing to see that once you are in trouble the force to face it comes and somehow you become stronger.
And to finish, I feel ashamed of the way I act when talking to you!
But this is not that much my fault. I am scared to death of about everything. (getting sick, dying, becoming poor, loosing a loved one,
earth quake etc etc
Anyway thanks for being there for me!

 
Old 06-23-2011, 12:42 AM   #11
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Re: Am I at risk? :(

hi again!

Few hours before posting this thread, I desperately sent an email to Durex!
But didn't think I would get an answer from them or a clear one anyway!
I just received an answer and for info I am pasting it here. Its not thought very clear but here is their answer as it is:



RE: Durex general enquiry - ref xxxx
Dear xxxxx

Thankyou for your contact to us.

We advise not to use oil-based substances with our condoms,(including Vaseline, lipstick, hand cream, massage and bath oil) as these can damage latex. With regards to your concern as to risk, you have advised that in this instance, there was no evidence of any apparent damage after use. As reference material, we do include further information with our condoms for their usage and any precautions; as with massage oils.

Kind regards
xxx
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Re: Am I at risk? :(

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hi again!

Few hours before posting this thread, I desperately sent an email to Durex!
But didn't think I would get an answer from them or a clear one anyway!
I just received an answer and for info I am pasting it here. Its not thought very clear but here is their answer as it is:



RE: Durex general enquiry - ref xxxx
Dear xxxxx

Thankyou for your contact to us.

We advise not to use oil-based substances with our condoms,(including Vaseline, lipstick, hand cream, massage and bath oil) as these can damage latex. With regards to your concern as to risk, you have advised that in this instance, there was no evidence of any apparent damage after use. As reference material, we do include further information with our condoms for their usage and any precautions; as with massage oils.

Kind regards
xxx
Consumer Relations
Reckitt Benckiser ANZ
And you point or question is?
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Old 06-23-2011, 02:31 AM   #13
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Re: Am I at risk? :(

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And you point or question is?
I simply added Durex reply so you can see it! Just as extra info!

 
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I simply added Durex reply so you can see it! Just as extra info!
Just enjoy your holiday. Your in a fab place, get of the net buddy and enjoy it.

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