Learned some scary news a/b my partners past
I have been dating a girl for 6 months (long distance, we saw each other a few days a month), and we recently broke up. We were having protected vaginal sex, and unprotected anal sex. About a month ago, we decided to get engaged, and we started having unprotected vaginal sex, hoping to get pregnant. If I had to guess, I would say I have had unprotected sex with her at least 25 to 30 times. I have not experienced any sort of symptoms of HIV, or any other STD since I started sleeping with her.
I recently saw her e-mails and found out that, in 2005 - 2007, she had been soliciting sex on the internet. So she was responding to ads, and placing ads, to meet up with men, women, and couples to engage in sex. What I saw her writing was absolutely disgusting - the kind of thing that you find on the porn websites that most people don't even bother looking at because it is sickening and degrading. I have no conclusive proof that she was actually meeting up with these people, but it was going on for so long that I have to assume it happened at least occasionally. As well, this is only what I saw in these e-mails - it is likely safe to assume she was engaging men and women in person, at clubs, etc. I also have reason to believe she was using cocaine at the time, although no reason to believe she was using needles.
Based on what I saw, it appears as though this behavior stopped in 2007. I am confident that I would have found some sort of evidence if it was still occurring, although I can't be 100% sure.
I asked her if she had been tested for HIV, and she said she had been 6 months prior to meeting me, when she went on birth control. I have since found out she has lied about numerous things, so I don't have confidence in the fact that she actually got tested.
My question is - would she have experienced the symptoms of HIV / AIDS in the last 4 - 6 years? She was not exhibiting any of the early symptoms, or symptoms at all. She was always very healthy, not fatigued, no rapid weight loss, etc. When I was with her, I did not find any sort of medication that would indicate she had a disease. I was also recently with her for 3 weeks straight, 24/7, and I am confident she was not taking any sort of medication without me knowing.
I am planning to get tested, just to be sure. I guess I'm trying to lower my anxiety level by getting some input on whether or not she would exhibit symptoms since she was doing these things. Of course, I also don't know what she may have been doing behind my back while we were dating, but again, I have no reason to believe she was sleeping with other people.
Last edited by Veetamin; 07-27-2011 at 06:59 PM.