HIV risk and Swallowing Semen
This has been discussed ad nauseum, so apologies there. Yet something still leaves me wondering.
Some of the frequent posters on this site as well as the doctors on the (Site #1) site all seem to agree that oral sex, even when swallowing, is extremely low to almost no risk. Even with sores, cuts, etc., they'd have to be huge and gaping to allow for transmission. The moral of the story is, at least where HIV is concerned, there's no cause for worry.
Doctors on other sites, though, such as (Site # 2), state things like "oral sex is considered lower but it is still a risk, period" and also says that "no reputable medical source will tell you it's risk free, and with cuts/abrasions/etc., it becomes high risk."
What's up with the two wildly different conclusions? I'll ignore the CDC (which appears to be alarmist about everything), but I can't wrap my mind around doctors at (Site # 1) and those at (site # 2) saying two almost opposite things.
I tend to believe the (Site #1) side. One study on another site showed that 19,000 instances of oral sex, even with many of them involving swallowing and/or significant viral loads, between serodiscordant couples, resulted in zero infections. I'm much more inclined to believe that then the studies where "8% of gay men who seroconverted swore that they had only done oral" (those conducting the study seem to not understand that many people are less then truthful when confronted with things they knew they shouldn't have been doing, i.e., unprotected anal sex.
I ask this because as a sexually active gay man, I enjoy performing oral sex and, on occasion, swallowing. Note, I rarely swallow, and with a significant number of partners per year, I can say I only swallow once in a while (probably less than the number I could fully count on one hand over the course of a year).
I am careful to ask the status of men before I swallow, but they could lie or not know (and potentially have a high viral load). I would like to think I could engage in the occasional swallowing without thinking I am putting myself at risk. "Did I have a sore in my mouth that perhaps I forgot about or didn't realize it was there?" "Are my cold/flu-like symptoms indicative of acute HIV?" Etc.
I would like to have a healthy sex life and, if it is virtually safe, enjoy the occasional swallow. Yet, I can't get info from doctors like at (Site # 2) and other sites out my head, reminding me that I may not be as safe I'd like/hope.
Thanks for any feedback.
(NB: I edited this to remove the names of the sites, though both are considered "highly reputable" by HIV docs/educators I know).
Last edited by NoSleepTill; 03-29-2012 at 08:14 PM.