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Old 11-06-2012, 01:52 PM   #1
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Was I exposed? Very nervous

Hello everyone, thanks for taking time to read and respond.

Where to begin. Well, I am a bi-curious male, so I had a one night stand with another male about 12 days ago. I never have one night stands, this was a first. We weren't intoxicated or anything like that. I performed protected oral sex on him for about 30 seconds. Then he penetrated me with protection for about a minute. No ejaculation. He used plenty of lube but it was slightly uncomfortable so I told him to stop. The condom was still on him and appeared intact after. I didn't examine it so I can't be sure. He told me he was negative and recently tested but that may not be true.

While I haven't had any symptoms or anything since, I've been very worried that I may have been infected with HIV. Should I be worried? Like I said protection was used and no ejaculation. But being between 2 men and me being the receiver, I know that make it risky. I have been very stressed about this and I hope that some one here can help me out. Thanks again.

 
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Old 11-06-2012, 03:15 PM   #2
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Re: Was I exposed? Very nervous

Hi ray, well the good news is that you had protected sex and will not be at risk of hiv. Now your concern of him not having a intact condom is no warrented. You would have known if it did break or certainly aftet.

So your fine, hope that helps
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Old 11-06-2012, 03:17 PM   #3
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Re: Was I exposed? Very nervous

Thank you for replying Apollo. So testing is not needed? Does the fact that he didnt ejaculate make it less risky? I've been very worried, should I move on?

 
Old 11-06-2012, 03:46 PM   #4
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Re: Was I exposed? Very nervous

The fact he used a condom makes it zero risk, if he did or not does not change the risk. so no, you dont need to buds.
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Old 11-06-2012, 04:02 PM   #5
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Thanks for the replies, I'll try to move on. The worries have been affecting my sleeping and sanity lately

 
Old 11-06-2012, 04:07 PM   #6
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Re: Was I exposed? Very nervous

Thats ok ray. Just remember condoms are 100% safe when used, so keep using them :-)
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Old 11-07-2012, 01:41 PM   #7
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Re: Was I exposed? Very nervous

Thank you for the reassurance. I've always used condoms, just never had a one night stand. Maybe that why I'm so anxious?

 
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Re: Was I exposed? Very nervous

I agree it seems that way, but you were smart enough to use a condom, so keep doing that and you will never have a concern.
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Old 12-10-2012, 04:21 PM   #9
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Re: Was I exposed? Very nervous

I just had a negative oraquick mouth swab test, 6 weeks after this incident. I believe this means I'm in the clear?

 
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Re: Was I exposed? Very nervous

You were never out of the clear in the first place because you had protected sex.

 
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