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Old 12-08-2012, 12:22 PM   #1
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Was I at risk/exposed in this situation?

Hello,

I would like to provide as much factual information about my situation below, to enable you to please provide me some objective advice on the risk exposure I may or may not have had.

8 days ago I had protected oral and vaginal intercourse with an escort . A polyurethane condom was used throughout, is it an issue that only one condom was used?

- I am a Hep B carrier, but have no history of other STIs or HIV (I only have one other sexual partner and we are both negative), am I at a greater risk of getting HIV (assuming she is HIV+) because I am a Hep B carrier? Or does this not make any difference? I have not been able to find any information on this in these forums or elsewhere online.

- if she just had vaginal intercourse with someone else shortly before I had protected sex with her, am I at any higher risk?

- I had a very large and inflammed ulcer in my mouth during the session, however I did NOT perform oral on her, nor did we engage in any type of kissing (my mouth was not used at anytime)- does this put my in any type of risk?

- As she was taking off the condom (carefully) after ejaculation, I touched the tip of it to see if it was leaking- I could feel some of the sperm, so does this mean the condom did NOT break, but potentially had some holes in it (hence why I was able to feel some semen)?

Say, if there were some holes, would this have meant I had some risk exposure while inside her? When I asked her if the condom broke or leaked, she immediately said no (she was holding onto it), and quickly asked me in a serious tone "Why do you ask that? She had a concerned look on her face, so I'm hoping she wanted to protect herself too.

- I had the cold/flu shortly after this encounter, and the following 2 days, I felt a burning sensation each time I urinated, this happened for 2 days. I saw two doctors 3 days after the sexual encounter, the first advised me to get tested in 3 months for all STIs and HIV. The second doctor ordered me to test for all STIs (which I did), and to test for HIV in either 6 weeks or 3 months. I asked both doctors, and both said there is a risk of contracting HIV (if the escort was HIV+)- I told them is there still a risk if the condom was intact the whole time and they said there is still a small chance for HIV, even though other STIs would be much easier to catch despite condom being on.

I have spent many hours in the last few days reading the threads here and it's clear in all instances, if the sexual act was protected (condom used), then there is no risk of exposure- but how come both doctors did not agree with this? One doctor said I was at risk because I did not change for a new condom for each new sexual act (ie new condom for oral, then new condom for vaginal intercourse, then another new one for oral again)- is this true? Am I still protected if 1 condom was correctly used throughout the whole session (which switched between oral and vaginal sex a few times)?


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will a polyurethane condom also "provide an essentially impermeable barrier to particles the size of HIV" (CDC)? Also, the doctor mentioned the statistics and research mainly show laboratory results, whereas there are many other real world factors for real cases, mainly if the condom was correctly used, which I believe it was in my case. They say there is 'always a risk' in catching hiv even if a condom was used. Is the protection 100% if the condom was used correctly?

- Should I test at the 6 week window or wait for the full 3 months? Is there any difference between the type of test done at 6 weeks or 3 months? Are the 6 week tests substantially more expensive than the ELISA/EIA tests? Will a ELISA/EIA test done at the 6 week mark (instead of 3 month) be inaccurate?

I have been regretting this one off instance nonstop since it happened, I have learnt my lesson and I really want to move on from this (I have already told my partner), some constructive advice would really be appreciataed.

Sorry for the very long post, thank you for reading through it and I look forward to hearing from you.

Tim

 
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Old 12-10-2012, 09:27 PM   #2
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Re: Was I at risk/exposed in this situation?

You had protected sex- I stopped reading your post after seeing that. The rest of your post is irrelevant. You had protected sex therefore could not have caught HIV. You do not have an HIV concern.

 
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Re: Was I at risk/exposed in this situation?

go find something else to obsess over
you should have no HIV concerns.
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Old 12-11-2012, 11:33 AM   #4
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Re: Was I at risk/exposed in this situation?

Thanks for the quick replies smiteler and joggen.

Should I still get tested at the 6 week or 3 month mark?

I'm just worried as many reputable sites say that condoms do not 100% protect transmission of HIV. Plus, does using 1 condom throughout (instead of changing between oral and vaginal make any difference)?

I have been to two different doctors and both have said there is still a low risk HIV even if a condom was used for vaginal intercourse.

Also, smiteler, you mentioned I 'should have no HIV concerns', I might be reading too much into your sentence, but does the 'should' mean I still may/could have concerns for HIV?

 
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Re: Was I at risk/exposed in this situation?

If a person tells you that you were not exposed to HIV, which is what you have been told, then why would you ask if you need to get tested? Tested for what? You were not exposed to anything because you used a condom, which contrary to what you were told, is 100% effective against HIV as long as it doesn't burst open. You have nothing to worry about and if you can't accept that fact then your next step has to be psychiatric help. This forum will tell you whether you were at risk or not. The answer is NOT. This isn't free therapy forum so since you need that kind of help you'll need to get it offline.

 
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Re: Was I at risk/exposed in this situation?

[QUOTE=timz5;5102626]Thanks for the quick replies smiteler and joggen.

Should I still get tested at the 6 week or 3 month mark?

I'm just worried as many reputable sites say that condoms do not 100% protect transmission of HIV. Plus, does using 1 condom throughout (instead of changing between oral and vaginal make any difference)?

I have been to two different doctors and both have said there is still a low risk HIV even if a condom was used for vaginal intercourse.

Also, smiteler, you mentioned I 'should have no HIV concerns', I might be reading too much into your sentence, but does the 'should' mean I still may/could have concerns for

I cannot belive any doctor would say that, let alone two of them. If thry did they need educating. The facts are quiet simple. Condoms are 100% safe in protecting you against hiv, so no you dont need to test for hiv.
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Re: Was I at risk/exposed in this situation?

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If a person tells you that you were not exposed to HIV, which is what you have been told, then why would you ask if you need to get tested? Tested for what? You were not exposed to anything because you used a condom, which contrary to what you were told, is 100% effective against HIV as long as it doesn't burst open. You have nothing to worry about and if you can't accept that fact then your next step has to be psychiatric help. This forum will tell you whether you were at risk or not. The answer is NOT. This isn't free therapy forum so since you need that kind of help you'll need to get it offline.
Thanks Smiteler, joggen, Kszan and Apollo for all your replies, I really appreciate it.

Would tiny hole/s in the condom indicate the condom failed or was ineffective? I notice tiny amount of semen leaking when I touched the condom when it was taken off my penis, but 99% of the sperm was intact. This is the only part that is causing my concern.

 
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I cannot belive any doctor would say that, let alone two of them. If thry did they need educating. The facts are quiet simple. Condoms are 100% safe in protecting you against hiv, so no you dont need to test for hiv.
I went to see a doctor that a colleague referred me to, and when I asked further about how effective condoms are in protecting one against HIV, if used correctly, he did say virtually 100%, as it cannot transfer.

As stated above, whilst the condom did not burst open or completely break, I did notice very tiny drip of semen when I touched the condom once taken off, I am not sure if this meant there was a small hole around the tip of condom.

On a side note, at the 5 week 5 day mark, I went to get a Duo/Combo test for Antigen and Antibody and both came back Negative, is this a strong indicator I will continue to test negative at the 3 month mark?

I had a cold(flu) while giving blood for the test and was taking flu tablets, will this impact the test results in anyway?

 
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Re: Was I at risk/exposed in this situation?

Condoms dont have holes but if they do the condom will burst like a balloon, so on that basis im still convinced your condom was intact and you didnt have a risk.

The fact you DUO test was negative is further evidence you were not at risk.

Its up to you what you choose to do, but if it was me i would not test again but if you do i can only say your test results will no change.
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Re: Was I at risk/exposed in this situation?

The blood test done at the 12 week mark was negative, can I move on from this or do I need to test one more time at 6 months for the result to be conclusive?

Is there any chance for the result to change after the 12 week mark? The event was a one off protected vaginal intercourse.

 
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Re: Was I at risk/exposed in this situation?

You never had a reason to test in the first place. a 3 month test is 100% conclusive, so it is impossible for you to have HIV.

Move on already.

 
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