hi, i'm circumcised 24 yo male
2 months ago i had protected genital sex with unprotected oral sex with a girl that i met in the internet, she had active coldsore on her lip. i didn't know that time that it is caused by herpes ..
i got Urethral infection with conjunctivitis after two weeks ( the doctor didn't know what bacteria or virus is causing this) there was no blisters or any clear signs of herpes, i didn't have cold sore or anything just tingling pain and burning during urination
after 1 week and half of antibiotic course i started to feel better
the girl now suffers from recurrent fever for almost 1 month and 20 days and she was diagnosed with upper respiratory tract infection due to mycoplasma bacteria, with normal chest x-ray, i also remember on the next day after sex, we were together and she bleed from the position of he cold sore, it means that it bursted.
i did test for HAV HBV HCV HEV , and all came out negative
yesterday after 65 days of possible exposure i made an Elisa antibody hiv test and it came out negative, they don't have rna, dna pcr test in where i'm living at now (China) ..
is that result enough, because i read on the internet that i should wait for 3 months to 6 months to make sure, but i'm just sooo worried?
is there a risk of getting hiv from oral sex specially the fact that she was carrying STD on her mouth and that she is having recurrent fever now????
i haven't developed fever or other symptoms, i just feel tired mostly, and i also feel some throat pain and flu like symptoms that comes and goes.
can i go back to my wife, or wait for another 4 weeks to make sure, i can't explain to my wife, i moved to another city ?? i'm seriously worried
I wonder who else had a post just like this, but anyway yes you are fine.
this is my first post in this forum, i never posted such question or any similar ones in this forum or this website.
i'm just so worried because i did a long term research of almost month and a half and all talk about risk through unprotected oral sex specially if she had cold sore, cuts or lesions on her mouth, (i'm not sure about cuts or leisions in her mouth) but i'm pretty sure about the cold sore.
secondly most websites and doctors suggest to wait for 3 months. do you think 65 days is enough?
m i at risk? website say low risk, but that still means a risk what if i'm in that low part? what if she had high viral load etc?
i didn't get your answer though do you mean i can get back to my wife?
i'm sorry for taking your time to read all this , i'm just so worried, i'm waiting for your suggestions.
would be happy to hear other friends replies too ....
however i think my situation is quite different from most of people who have posted about oral sex risk here, the fact is that i got an STD from this, the doctor thought it's chlamydia and other doctor said it's not chlamydia since there was no clear discharge from penis so it's NGU urethral infection.
isn't that supposed cause a co infection??? that's what makes me worried the most
and i'm wondering what if my penis touched on the canker sore, or directly on a cut that is in her mouth before it mixed with the saliva, wont that cause a risk???????
plus i have pharyngitis more than once , i could touch with my tongue the sores, and my lymphoid on my throat is larger, went to the doctor and gave me antibiotics, i didn't get them and it just went away the second day but again it came back now
it goes for a day and comes back the other day,