TIME FOR HOSPICE - Hospice Message Board

hope1220 · 04-30-2003, 02:18 PM

Well it has been a few weeks since I posted last - remember I am the one going insane because both mom and dad are dying of lung cancer. We discovered dad's last but he is going faster. Neither of them want to let go first. They both want to make sure the other one will be okay. Dad has kept the hope that they both will beat this thing. He is only 60 she is 66. Dad's cancer has spread like wildfire everywhere. It is even in his bones. He is experiencing tremendous pain or was until yesterday. Yesterday he was so weak he slept all day from noon until now only waking up every so often but whenever I would ask if he was hurting he would just say "I don't think so". He has given in finally - Hospice is coming today to talk to us I guess it is getting close. Please pray for us~ Hope B.

angel_november02 · 04-30-2003, 02:26 PM

Hi,
I am praying for you. My mom had to have hospice care before she died of colon & liver cancer at 50. Hospice is a very scary thing to have to think of, but they are a great help. All their supplies are free. They allowed my mom to stay at home where she was more comfortable. They supplied a bed and lift chair for free for her to use. They can also get some medicines for you free. They kept her comfortable with pain medication. Along with excellent staffing. They still contact my dad and have grief meetings for family throughout the month. This is a tough thing to go through for anyone of any age. I can't imagine both parents going through it at the same time. God is in control. I hope you have some support from brothers or sisters or close friends. You sound like you could use some. I am here if you need to talk.

In Christ Love,
Andrea

HoosierBj · 04-30-2003, 09:16 PM

When I look back and try to find one bright spot during the time my Dad was dying of Stage 4 cancer, I can tell you that it is always Hospice.
They kept my Dad pain free and that meant the world to us. Hospice was there when we needed them and unobtrusive when we didn't. At Hospice House they were always, always compassionate and respectful of our feelings.

Hospice is a blessing as anyone will tell you, but I do understand what the word Hospice indicates to anyone who is told they "qualfy" - and that is one tough piece of information to deal with. I guess in my case it helped to concentrate on the GOOD in Hospice rather than the fact that their presence reinforced what I already knew.

How are YOU doing at this point?? Have you been able to eat and sleep fairly regularly?
Take care of yourself, if you don't have friends who have lost parents keep coming back here for sure - it's
helped me more than anyone could ever know...
Bj

ann203 · 05-01-2003, 03:37 AM

Dear Hope, life must seem so cruel to you, having both parents with lung cancer. I will pray for you and your parents. And I will pray that God gives you the courage to cope with all of this. Please remember that you are not alone, we are all here to help you. I will pray that God gives you the courage to cope with all this. take care and God Bless, Ann.

LeisaH · 05-01-2003, 04:09 PM

Hope

Hospice, you will find it a god send. Are your parents hoping to stay at home or are they hoping to get a room together at the hospice? Mom chose to go to a hospice. I think maybe she thought it was best for us and also she did not want to die in the dining or living room. I understand a bit of what you are going through, but I do not think that any one of us can truely understand how you are feeling. Good Luck

Leisa