New here, FIL just got hospice - just want to understand things better
Hi there, i've never posted here, but I read some posts & wanted to just ask a few things - or maybe more accurately, just talk to someone.
My FIL was diagnosed lung cancer around Thanksgiving; he was scheduled to have the lung removed in late December, but apparently they had found that it spread to his lymph nodes and spine - and deemed it inoperable.
He completed one course of chemo about a month ago or so. Since then, he's been in the hospital one & off. He goes to the ER because he can't breathe, and he has had blood clots in his lung, and a lot of fluid removed. The "cancer free" lunch is apparently ravaged by emphysema.
They tried some sort of treatment where they filled his chest cavity with a "talc" or some type of medicated powder (?) he was so miserable & said he couldn't take the pain anymore. Thankfully they gave him a morphine pump soon after.
Hospice called soon after that. I know what that means, pretty much. They are sending him home tomorrow & I guess hospice will be coming to live with them - at least that's how it sounded.
I'm not sure what to expect now..... how do we know - days, weeks, months ???
I just feel so helpless... it all happened so fast. I saw the guy on New Year's Day - yeah, he was really tired, but he was visting with me & joking around.
Thanks for taking the time to read this - I guess I just needed to share the story more than anything.