i was also diagnosed with hpv back in june, and i was totally stunned- although i had a visible wart, i didn't think there was any way it was actually a wart. but alas, i was wrong... i was really distraught, i am the only girl my boyfriend has been with and was thinking he'd leave me, but he's been seemingly fine with it and it hasn't affected our sex life much (only before the warts went away.) so yes, i was totally scared and freaked and stressed out, it's definately a scary thing...
anyway, they say that the strain of hpv that causes visible warts indeed is not one that gives you abnormal paps. i still have normal ones even after knowing what i have. with that being said, you can have more than one strain, one giving you warts and one that can give you an abnormal pap, but i wouldn't necessarily count on that
as for the aldara cream, i know it is way expensive, so i'll just say that i changed my diet (ate a bit healthier), took more vitamins for my immune system (because warts are a reaction to a poor immune system, which is why mine were suppresed for so long), and i started exercising. i was able to rid my warts within 4-6 weeks, probably closer to 4 though. everyone's different, but that is my advice for getting rid of those things, as well as getting to stop using aldara ASAP!!!!! i only had to buy one dosage of aldara though!
hope that helps, you'll be fine!!