Feelings of hopelessness with HPV - Human Papillomavirus (HPV) Message Board

Mr.G · 10-04-2005, 11:51 PM

Receanlty I have really been down about having GW. I know there are worse things in life but at the moment it is hitting me full-fleged. I have receantly been told that I am currently wart free. Which is good news of course; but the area that had been treated is still pinkish due to several cyro treatments. I do not know how long it will take too heal. Anyways my dilema is that I keep meeting women that want me REAL bad! I have been blessed with the ability of always knowing what to say..and girls fall head over heels for me. Receantly I had a girl that is litterally obsessed with me who has A BF mind you that wants to leave him and come to me. IT is flattering none the less but I cant do it. Another girl in one of my classes that I have just started talking too in the last couple of weeks is starting to fall for me. The thing is I did not develop the ability to talk to women until after I was diagnosed with HPV> I know that does not make much sense but I kind of had a reawaking in life and realized that I was toying with my life when I was having unproteced sex with this girl I did not know well. The only reason I had sex with her was because I was in a deep depresion due to some major life events and my head was not clear. After that whole incident my life completey changed and I am a totally different person than I once was. When it comes to girls I have always wanted just to have a nice gf. I never was the type that wanted tp sleep with as many girls as possible. I have had less sex than all of my friends around me; yet I am the one who gets the STD because of one bad mistake. ANyways back to my dilemna. I know I could charm this new girl I met to the point were should would consider taking a chance with me even with my condition. But the way I see it; it really is no different than brainwashing someone. I dont want to put anyone in a situation where they could possibly get this. All in all I know GW are not bad because they are treatable and eventually can leave the body but their is such a level of uncertainty about it that it is impossible to know if you are ever safe not to pass it on. IT just makes me feel so horrible that I have finally reached a point in my life were I know how to attract women very well but cannot do anything about it. I just spend my time going to school and working; while the rest of my friends are having fun. I keep having to flake out on girls because of this and I am getting sick of it. Well I just needed to vent I suppose that some point in my life I will make sense of why this happend to me.

Questions..HPV? · 10-05-2005, 09:31 PM

I can relate! I think everyone who has this has asked themselves, "why me??". I found out about 4 weeks ago that I had HPV after I noticed a couple of warts. I was stunned to hear the diagnosis. I always thought it was spread through unprotected sex and I have always used protection. I think most people think the same way, if they use protection, they are ok! Unfortunately that is not always the case....as those of us with HPV know.

Anyway....I have only known for about a month now and I am trying not to let it take over my life. At first, I thought, "Oh no, I can't get married and have kids, and how in the world am I ever going to tell a guy about this in the future." But after reading so many stories on hear, it has given me hope that I can have the things in life that I want and that there are understanding people in this world!

Kudos to you for wanting to be honest and upfront with women before anything happens! I think if you weren't honest with them upfront, your conscience would kick in and you would feel alot of guilt for not telling them! But don't let it keep you from talking to women and pursuing a relationship. You may find that ONE person who is very understanding and loves you no matter what! I am not going to let it hold me back, I am just going to be very cautious about things from now on!

Good luck to you....keep us posted!

moonstruckgrl · 10-06-2005, 12:19 AM

Well, you may even find a woman that already has it!
But anyway, where did you hear that the virus can eventually leave the body?! I thought this thing was for life...
It builds itself into the DNA. How would it leave the body?

Mr.G · 10-06-2005, 01:33 AM

typw in your brower HPV forum...then go to that site with that adress...it has all kinds of indo about clearnace from credible sources..and cdc...Im going to planned parenthood in the am to check my self again and ask questions.

Mr.G · 10-06-2005, 01:35 AM

o yeah I realize tht questions..hpv? I knwo that the girl that would love you know matter what will take ya. But thing is I am 23 and there is not too many girls out there looking for long term and I am not sure If I am. I know I want a GF; but do I know I want to be with them forever?