Anyone here have HPV? How the dating scene go for yah? - Human Papillomavirus (HPV) Message Board

Mr.G · 10-24-2005, 08:03 PM

I picked up HPV about 11 months ago, well I did not even realize it until this last march. Anyways I was betratyed in my last relationship..lyed to, cheated on and was also given genital warts. I found out this last march and have been dealing with it emotionally since. All the docotors and nurses that I have talked to says that it is incredibly common...somwhere around 80% of the pop in my age group has some form of it. Yet this bears me little comfort because I still do not feel the same. I treated it and have been clear of it for about 2 months now. I have had 3 different opionions to make sure it was gone and so far all have said it is clear. Nurse told me that after 6 months of being clear that the body build immunity to it and most likely is not contagious anymore....but there is a degree of uncertainty I am not comfortable with. Anyways I have abstained from sex for nearly 10 months now and have not been in a realtionship for about 14 months. I feel that I have a lot going for me and I constantly have girls coming after me all the time. Sevearl of my close friends that are girls try to set me up and never understand why I am not with someone...or at least getting some action. I have made out with some girls but I dont let anyone get close to me. I am now emotionally ready for a realtionship knowing that I will have to diclose this info about myself to them. I was wondering if any of you have been through this and how did it go? I just fear the rejection and I dont feel like I desearved this in the first place. I guess in time it things will come together.

swtgirl2579 · 10-24-2005, 10:52 PM

Well about three years ago...I was dating this guy who I thought cared about me but really at the end he just cheated and I ended up with HPV...sounds easy right....well anyone who has a STD knows its not/wasnt. I thought it was hard with just the HPV I also got the cancer from it...Yeah I really loved my life at this point...but anyways, I thought and believed that I would never find love again....But I did...So I told him (which is always the hardest part) and he was ok with it...yeah i'm sure he was scared but he cared about me and he know it was apart of me...we got married....Then after a year of marriage he also cheated on me..boy let me tell you I must be the worse gf in the world...lol...ok back to the story...after he cheated on me i went to get retested...lucky me i didnt have anything. Just the HPV...which was still enough. Ok so I left him...and again thought to myself that i wouldnt never find love again....well again i did....my new bf and I are very close. I also told my new bf about HPV and He's ok with it..we are very carefull....yeah i know there is still that % that he will end up with it..and i've very scared of that....trust me. But the reason i'm writing this today is b/c My bf is now getting scared...so he's going to the doc tomorrow...I'm SCARED that i'm going to lose him...I love him so much...yeah if he left I would soon or later get past it..but i dont want that...SO How is the dating world for me...well right now its scary. Till later, Take care,

bye Jen

Mr.G · 10-25-2005, 04:06 PM

wow I am sorry you have had to go through all of that. Why is it that us good people always seem to get hurt the most? Although my whole experience sucked I have completely changed for the better as a result. I am much more confident, charasmatic and also know what to look out for in relationships. I know it may sound wierd to you but there are a lot of girls out thier that are just like the guys that did things to you. I have always seemed to attract these types. I have been blessed with good looks(been told I resemble Jude Law), which sometimes I feel fortuante for but other times I feel cursed for. I know your probably like what? When I mean cursed is because my looks have let me into a life where I see human behavior in its most barbaric form. It just shocks me at what ppl well do to one another for their own personal gain and pleasure. Luckily I have never been the type to take advantage of my blessings in a way to harm others..sure every now and then I will use it to get a little something, but not in a way to hurt someone. Now when it comes to relationships and having this condition I feel I am at a worse position than a girl with it because I have the more potential to cause harm. As a guy this condition does not cause any kind of health problems other than a minor cosmetic inconveinces. I know most guys would not even consider the potential that they could do to others..once there treated and healed it does almost feel like they are gone. But I know that I still have it and have the potential to give to others which I dont feel comfortable with. But then again I want to have a GF really badly. I attract a lot of girls because I am very charming and charasmatic. The thing is too though I am very picky when it comes to girls. I need a girl that can keep with with me and is very open minded. Well anyways I just felt the need to vent and feel free to comment more.

Mr.G · 10-25-2005, 04:19 PM

Oh yeah also to mention I always try to figure out why things went bad in previous relationships. I figured that the last one had nothing to do with me and all to do with this girl's inability to love ande trying to beleive that she was someone she was not. She saw me as a good guy, and I think that by her being with me made her beleive that she was not as bad as she actually was/has been. But through time she got back into old habits because thats what she was used to. Of course I have not been perfect all of my life. I used a girl for sex once. She feel in love me and I had no mutual feelings. I never cheated on her however even though I felt that we were not a couple. I eventually ended it because I did not want to lead her on anymore. Since then I have not done anything like this to a girl.

nightangel73 · 10-25-2005, 06:06 PM

I have the hpv and it doesn't affect at all my dating life. The two guys i have been with afterwards I have told them before anything intimate happens and it made no difference. Granted it is probably because i don't have the wart type of the HPV, which causes absolutetly nothing to men. If I fall in love with the guy I would accept he has the virus. But I do would like to know before hand. The guy who gave to me had no idea he was carrying the virus so I forgive him. Good luck Mcgunter in finding a gf. I guess the virus for you has been like a wake up call which is good.