I found this board and I am really glad that I did. It has helped me. I wanted to tell my story cuz I am really scared right now and not really sure where else to go.
So about two months ago I noticed a tiny bump ( size of a pen tip)on the inside of one of my vaginal lips. No blister, No sore, No itching. It is raised and skin color. To be honest with myself, it looks like a wart, I think. I freaked out and made an appointment at the free clinic to get tested. I usually get tested every six months. I have been in a relationship since April and it started to get a bit more serious about three months ago. We started having unprotected sex. I was stupid and did not talk to my boyfriend about his sexual past. When I did, he told me that he had never been tested for anything and that I had been his first partner since his last girlfriend (last oct, 2004). I have had three partners in the last year (before him and none after) but they were all one time occurences and used condoms ( not the best luck with men this year) I went to the clinic three days later and when I went to show the nurse what I was concerned about, the bump was gone.
Well I got all of the tests and they were "negative". About a month later the same bump came back. I was really concerned and called my clinic to talk to them about the tests. She said that I did not have HPV, yadda yadda. Now a few weeks later, I am still worried after researching and finding out that I was only tested for the cancerous strain. ( I was never told this) And that it is still possible that I may have HPV. I finally came out and told my boyfriend what I was scared about. I was misinformed and thought that getting a negative test result was good enough. He said that he has never noticed anything abnormal about his penis. So now I am going to the clinic with him on Tues to get us both tested for everything (though I was just tested two months ago) and to have this thing looked at.
Now we are concerned with who has passed it to whom? He is very supportive and after all of the research we have done, it seems like we will never really know. Or worse, that we could have never prevented because neither of us had any symptoms. I kind of thought that he was the most likely person since a little over a month after the unprotected sex, it appeared. More importantly, I am the one with symptoms and he has none, so how can I be sure that he is even infected? Are we just supposed to not have sex and wait to see IF something pops up on him?
He keeps saying that with all of the unprotected sex that we have been having, it is likely that he has it too, if he was not the one to give it to me originally but this is not cool with me. I want to protect him if he is not already infected but with no test for men, what are my options?
He keeps saying that we should wait to see what it is first and then discuss these options. I have been doing a lot of research and I am pretty sure that this is what I have. I know that I am not a doctor but it does not seem right to me. I think that I have convinced myself, this is what it is and I am preparing for the worst.
If I do have HPV do I have to stop having sex until it is removed or gone? Can I spread it from touching it and then touching somewhere else? I have found so many conflicting answers about this virus and it is all very disheartening especially since he has no symptoms and we will not know if he gave me the virus or not?
If anyone can help me I would really appreciate it. I know that I should wait to see what the doctor says...I KNOW THIS but, please give me some advice about it now?