What to say to the new guy - Human Papillomavirus (HPV) Message Board

newpatient485 · 06-19-2008, 11:11 AM

Ok, so when I found out I had HPV, I was single and hadn't been with anyone for over a year. I told past partners (awkward!) because it was my hope they would at least tell people they were with and maybe it would encourage those women to get their exams or get vaccinated. The idea that I could have passed it to another woman made me feel terrible because going through this sucks!

So anyway, I got through telling those people, but now I'm dating someone new,. It's getting to the point where we are going to need to have "the talk," and I'm not exactly sure how/when/where to bring it up.

I've heard about different reactions from current husbands/boyfriends, but I haven't really heard anyone talk about a new partner . . . I guess I'm just not sure how I can explain it to someone new . . .

If there are any men on the board, I'd love to hear from them too.

rosequartz · 06-19-2008, 11:15 AM

why say anything? aren't you planning on using condoms? If so you have nothing to worry about

newpatient485 · 06-19-2008, 11:19 AM

It's my understanding from my doctor that condoms are no guarantee as it can be passed on by any sort of contact.

rosequartz · 06-19-2008, 11:20 AM

interesting, I didn't know that. I still wouldn't say anything.......it's not that big of a deal because the majority of the population has it, and saying something might scare someone off......and who knows that person could have it anyway! I just would keep my mouth shut. I know not everyone would agree with me, but that's what I'd do.

newpatient485 · 06-19-2008, 11:21 AM

Well I'm planning on telling him regardless. If it were me I'd want to know, and I think it's only fair to give someone all the information BEFORE you have sex. Anyway, if anyone has any advice or went through this, I'd love to hear it.