worried - Human Papillomavirus (HPV) Message Board

loser123 · 06-30-2008, 09:02 AM

hi,

my wife was diagnoised with hpv hig risk virus last week, i ma postive that i passed it on to her. i feel so gulity. i also read that the hpv virus will leave the womens body on its own in 2 years if they are not reinfected. does this mean i should not have sex with her ever again??

she is also pregnant. i am so worried

jenuine86 · 06-30-2008, 09:17 AM

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Originally Posted by loser123

hi,

my wife was diagnoised with hpv hig risk virus last week, i ma postive that i passed it on to her. i feel so gulity. i also read that the hpv virus will leave the womens body on its own in 2 years if they are not reinfected. does this mean i should not have sex with her ever again??

she is also pregnant. i am so worried

Don't worry.. if she was just recently diagnosed, she should be fine so long as she keeps up on proper testing and such.. I'm not sure how they go about treating pregnant women, but I am understanding more that it will not have much affect on her pregnancy.. They will want to keep on eye on her cervix to make sure the virus does not progress into anything bad and if it does, she'll have options of how to deal with it..
You can have sex with her, you don't get "reinfected" as HPV is with you for life, but her immune system can supress it to make it become dormant and inactive..
This is what i've learned anyhow.. hope it helps.

ps
you're not a loser.

newpatient485 · 06-30-2008, 09:52 AM

I know it's easy to feel guilty, but there is NO test for high-risk HPV in men, and it's estimated that 80% of people get the virus by the time they're 50. There's just no way you could have known, and even if you had been using condoms, she probably would have gotten it anyway.

The best thing you can do is just be supportive and make sure she keeps up with her testing. We have so many effective tests and treatments that if you're monitoring your health it rarely turns into anything serious, and even if it becomes cervical cancer, that's very treatable too.

Pickle Eyes · 06-30-2008, 11:23 AM

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Originally Posted by loser123

hi,

my wife was diagnoised with hpv hig risk virus last week, i ma postive that i passed it on to her. i feel so gulity. i also read that the hpv virus will leave the womens body on its own in 2 years if they are not reinfected. does this mean i should not have sex with her ever again??

she is also pregnant. i am so worried

Guilt/loser: Hold on. The only way to "know" you are responsible for giving her HPV is if she had had no sexual contact prior to you, and you had previous encounters (prior to her). HPV (high risk) can be around for a long time without people knowing it is there. HPV can take y-e-a-r-s to show atypical cells enough to be identified in paps, colposcopies, etc.

Secondly, your wife needs to be sure that she is doing what the doctors recommend regarding follow up tests and appointments.

And as far as sex . . . you have already been exposed to hrHPV and so has she. As long as the two of you remain faithful and exclusive, no further strains of HPV will be introduced into the relationship.

I hope that helps ease your mind a bit. You need to be sure you talk with your doctor (or your wife's doctor) if you are concerned if you have any other STIs.

kilgore52 · 07-23-2008, 12:41 PM

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Originally Posted by newpatient485

I know it's easy to feel guilty, but there is NO test for high-risk HPV in men, and it's estimated that 80% of people get the virus by the time they're 50. There's just no way you could have known, and even if you had been using condoms, she probably would have gotten it anyway.

The best thing you can do is just be supportive and make sure she keeps up with her testing. We have so many effective tests and treatments that if you're monitoring your health it rarely turns into anything serious, and even if it becomes cervical cancer, that's very treatable too.

AND I MIGHT ADD TREATABLE IF CAUGHT EARLY. VERY SERIOUS IN NOT.