jane, do you have warts or no symptons and high risk hpv. men really don't have problems unless its the warts. they would be bothered by that. but if you have no symptoms then i would just prefer a condom. they are beginning to say that oral sex can cause head and neck cancers in people with hpv.
it's up to you when to tell but i fell most men really are clueless when their are no symptoms. it's up to you when to share