Do you have high risk or low risk HPV?
Either way, if you and your boyfriend are monogamous, then the two of you have already shared strains of HPV. AND, condoms only give some protection against strains of HPV because it is passed by skin to skin contact, not fluids.
As far as passing the virus along to an unborn child, I've read yes, no, and inconclusive.
If you are talking about low risk HPV which can lead to warts, I don't know much about that other than what I've already said. High risk HPV can lead to cancer if undetected and/or untreated (cervical, vaginal, vulval, penile, anal, oral/throat). High risk HPV doesn't have any outward signs of infection.