Re: HVP - affects on men
Are you sure you want to know what the worst thing is? Worst case scenario with low risk HPV is genital warts (including anal and/or oral). Worst case scenario with high risk HPV is cancer (any genitalia including anal and/or oral). That is true for men or women.
The good news for men is that they rarely get cancer from HPV. The bad news is most men have been exposed to it, but don't know. Because they don't know they are spreading it to new partners (who are also sharing their strains of HPV with them). Most people don't know their HPV status. Why? The test for women was approved only 4 or 5 years ago and many doctors are just recently (in the last year or so) beginning to use it with women over 30. What about men? There is no FDA approved test for HPV for use with men.
How can you put her mind (and yours) at ease? Data shows that more than 80% of women have been exposed to HPV at some point in their lives, by the time they are 50. I think those statistics were published before the HPV test was approved. I suspect the percentages are significantly higher. More good news, most people are able to fight the virus and make it inactive (can't think of a better word) and it doesn't cause future problems. There are the unlucky ones (like me) who were not able to fight the virus so the virus started causing abnormal cells (which grew into cervical cancer). It is possible that HPV can be reactivated later in life. It is also possible (and very likely) for someone to have more than one strain of HPV.
Because HPV is transmitted by sexual contact it is considered an STD. Anyone who has had sexual contact (not just intercourse) with more than one person in his/her lifetime is likely to be exposed to HPV.
There is so much to learn about HPV. There is also a growing body of knowledge about the virus because scientists are developing better tests and procedures to deal with HPV. A great place to start learning about HPV is to read the information at the Center for Disease Control.
I hope that helps.