| Re: Not telling...
With other STDs, I really think you have to tell. But with HPV . . . I don't know. I feel it's your personal decision.
I know I would feel crappy if I couldn't tell my partner. Not guilty for keeping it, but I wouldn't want a relationship where I couldn't be honest about what's going on in my life.
HPV will remain with you, but often it "clears" your system and becomes inactive. It's not actually known whether it can be passed while it's inactive. Compare it to the chicken pox virus: we all still have it in our bodies, but we don't go around spreading it, do we? Years ago, I had a wart on my hand, and I don't hestitate to shake hands with people.
And what is the result if you tell you partner? You would say to you partner, "I could give you HPV." That is the exact same as telling your partner, "I have had sex before."
It's been a major life lesson for me that HPV is unavoidable. The only way to deal with it is to make sure you keep getting checked to make sure the HPV you probably have isn't causing you problems.
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