I feel you! I just found out that my last PAP had an ASCUS result with possible HPV, and it felt so isolating, so gross, so upsetting, and lonely! And then I googled it... and I feel better! Apparently, it's not rare, something like 80% of all sexually active people have some form of HPV. It's (generally) not high-risk, and (generally) treatable with simple procedures.
It's still not a walk in the park, considering that I'd rather be 100% healthy, but at least we're not alone
http://www.cdc.gov/std/hpv/stdfact-hpv-and-men.htm#test