Re: When should I get further treatment?
Hi LJ82, from reading your information (and thanks for all of it- it helps understand the situation) I wonder if your doctor is continuing with the wait-and-watch ever 6 months or so to help maintain your fertility. Procedures like LEEPs and/or CKCs (cold knife cone biopsies) can interfere with the cervix's competency (for lack of a better word - its ability to maintain a pregnancy). I don't know if the same type of problems can occur after cryo.
I have a few suggestions. If you haven't asked for copies of your pathology reports, then do so. Ask for all of them back to your first bad pap. They will tell you what type of tests were run, tissue was sampled, what the tissue looked like, what the problems were (if any), and the pathologist's impressions/recommendations.
If you are not totally sure that your doctor is being aggressive enough you could do one of two things (or both of them). Ask him/her why you are continuing with watch and wait after 2 years of the paps not improving. Get a second opinion. You might want to do the latter any way.
I hope that helps a bit. And congratulations on the upcoming marriage!