I was upfront when entering my current relationship with my boyfriend. I told him I have HPV, to my surprise he told me he too has HPV. His ex-girlfriend exposed him to genital warts. He told me he did what he could to prevent not getting it but in the end he still was infected with the virus.
I am not sure what type of HPV I have. All I know is the type I have causes me to have dysplasia and makes my pap smear results come out abnormal. Each time this happens my doctor does a colposcopy. When my doctor gets the results (to the colposcopy) he tells me everything is fine and no further actions are done.
I've been a bit obsessive about this because my boyfriend worries about me infecting him with my strain and getting cancer and vice vera. He's TOO worrisome in that it's taking the fun out of sex. We do not engage in certain types of foreplay and its driving me crazy. My boyfriend thinks that by us not engaging in certain sex acts that we prevent sharing the virus. I told him its a moot point to think that way being that I've been told by my doctor and I've read HPV is spread through skin to skin contact. I also told him there's a possibility he has the strain I have and I have the strain he has.
We've gotten into really bad fights about this to the point where we almost broke up. In the heat of an argument he asked "Your fine with us breaking up? You think it's okay to just date other guys and infect them with HPV?" I simply replied that he's not one to be calling the kettle black. I don't know what to do. I refuse to have HPV take over my life. I am fairly young, only 22. I don't want to have to worry about this 24/7. So long as I see my doctor every 6 months and I pay attention to any changes in my body I don't see it as a big deal yet it seems my boyfriend does. I am just venting my frustration with my current predicament. My boyfriend doesn't want to discuss this anymore and I don't trust my friends enough to tell them what's going on.
Anyways I appreciate any input. Thank you