ok, that subject line sounded awfully harsh, and I in no way intended for it to sound that way.
To keep my story short and sweet, I will get right down to the point. I contracted herpes over 2 years ago. Since that initial (painful) outbreak, I haven't had one reoccurance, and have had normal sex with other partners....(who, in turn, never contracted it)
So now I've finally found the
one. Quick history: I met him in the middle of june last year, the most attractive man I had seen in a long time... and unfortunately we went a little too far on one of our first "dates". I performed oral on him, but that was as far as is got. I didn't want to have sex with him because I knew I had genital herpes, and I wanted to wait. A few days later I became scared and broke it off - I wasn't ready for a commitment, I told myself, primarily because I had been hurt really really bad 2 years prior. There was no contact between us for about a week and a half, and then he writes me an email, accusing me of giving him herpes. He says he didn't go to the doctor, that all the symptoms point to it: small zits below the belly button (?!?), dizziness and headache.
Oh god, you have no idea how horrible I felt. I wrote him back right away and told him I seriously, honest to God didn't know I had oral herpes, otherwise I would have never performed oral sex on him. Things settled down and he moved away and then he unexpectadely came back to visit and we met and it was like I was looking at a whole new person. I opened my eyes and realized that I couldn't let this chance pass up...I quit drinking alcohol (which was a huge reason why I thought I wasn't ready for a commitment), and he ended up staying in my town for 2 1/2 more weeks. He then moved back to the coast for good this time, and I knew deep in my heart that I wanted to be with him - maybe even forever. so then 2 months later I moved away from my "home" town...and right in with the man that I will marry one day...
Woah. Getting off subject. So get this: he took a blood
test and tested NEGATIVE for herpes!!! This was before I moved in, mind you. He didn't understand it and thought the test could have been wrong. I have had 2 other outbreaks (other than the initial one 2 years ago) and that was when I moved out here. The stress got to me. And another when I got back onto Birth Control 3 months ago. Blech. Spent $500 on doctors and meds, just to find out on my OWN that I was really just having an outbreak, not Bacterial Vaginosis/Yeast/Bladder Infections. Fun, huh.
My boyfriend and I have been having unprotected sex for the past 2 1/2 months. His dizziness and headaches haven't gone away since day one. He went to a doctor about a month ago, and lied to them, telling them he knew he had herpes and so they prescribed him with Acyclovir. He ended up even taking 6 pills a day - but to no avail. Last week he went to the SAME doctor, and he asked to get put on Valtrex. He's been on it for the past week, and his dizziness and headaches still haven't subsided.
This is another thing I don't get: his "zits" are right below his belly button. The "zits" that I get when I have an outbreak are monsterous compared to the puny zits he has....and besides - I thought outbreaks only occur in the initial spot where skin to skin contact took place. I don't recall rubbing my mouth and tounge all over his stomach...seriously.
I also got tested for everything in the book before I moved out here to live with him - I have nothing....and you know what else? I'm not an asymptomatic shedder: which means I can't spread the virus without having visible lesions.
My boyfriend is a hypochondriac...even he admits it. He's got a lot of medical history - doctors somewhere else told him he had chrone's disease...turned out it was "just" IBS. They told him he also may have colon cancer. He's got bad digestive problems and his stomach is constantly swollen. He has asthma. He's allergic to animals. And he's also a vegetarian that doesn't take any other vitamins/protein supplements - which may be the cause of his dizziness/headacheness?
I honestly don't blame him for having lost all faith in doctors...
But deep down I seriously believe that he never contracted herpes from me at all! *sighs*
I mean - even the blood test came back negative! I'm sorry for going on and on....any thoughts would be greatly appreciated...
Sleepless in Seattle