Re: Incontinence issues
I do not think you are trying too hard. Just remember, that when you need a respite/rest, just do it, take it! I will do everything to help my parents (the wrong way and the right way!). Then I will get fed up, because it all seems for naught! So, I just step back for a few days or a week. I still go over there and help, but I do not try to get them to do a new thing that would help, or to butt in too much (just as little as will get them by).
I am so glad that you are getting her the bracelet! Because she is such a wanderer and BIL lets her, she really needs one. And that was really smart to get some free Depends before spending $15. - $20. for a whole box. She just may not want to wear them - And if so, she will not wear them!
You did good, telling FIL all you told him! At least he will jump start things for a day or two. Now when is it MIL can go to respite care? About a month?!
Just be careful for you. Try to immerse yourself in your schoolwork, family and yourself! I know tho, that you cannot just ignore what is right downstairs.
Take care of you 1st!!!!! Wannabe