For the last few years, at least, I've had urinary incontinence with coughing, sneezing, running, even heavy lifting. For another problem, I had a D&C and when Dr. called with good biopsy results, I finally asked about stress incontinence. She said there are tests they do in the office to determine for sure what type of incontinence it is and even briefly discussed surgery. I have appointment with her in a few weeks and am getting my questions ready. But, has anyone else had this problem, had the surgery, anything? I do plan on asking if taking estrogen or other medicine would help but from what I've seen online and literature she sent me, those don't help with stress incontinence. I even thought my weight may be a problem but she said no. I'm 5'6", weigh 185 pounds, and 52 years old. I've never been pregnant so those muscles aren't weakened by childbirth. I even got in the habit of crossing my legs if I feel a sneeze/cough, etc. coming on, that is if no one is around to see me. I'm worried about the tests she'll do in the office as I've read about those online and I'm not even sure if it would be worth it to even have the tests with the embarrassment. Does stress incontinence get worse after menopause? Has anyone just "learned to live with it" or have any input at all for me? Thank you.