Hello brother, and welcome! I’m glad to share my experiences in this area in order to help you get a better feel for what you might expect.
Not everyone’s “journey to continence” is the same, but my journey seems to have followed a “typical” path (as you will see from the statistics in the link, below) and I hope you have similar success. (More importantly, I hope that your pathologist’s report, which you will probably be receiving just about now, is as good as it can be!)
I’m a little worried that you wrote:
Originally Posted by treestand
the thing iam haveing trouble with is the incontanence. its been 4 days since they took the cather out...
The thing I’m worried about is that you seem concerned
about your incontinence at this very early juncture
. It would trouble me greatly if your surgeon didn’t properly prepare you for the almost certainty of a period of “poor continence” immediately after the catheter is removed for some number of weeks/months afterwards. Some very few lucky guys seem to be continent almost immediately, but the vast majority have to work their way through it. A very small percentage of men have some ongoing problems. Hopefully, the "trouble" you are having is simply your own short-term frustration (quite naturally), and not that you weren't prepared for this by your surgeon.
My surgery was April 9, 2009…just 5 months ago, but already it is fading from memory. I’m fully continent now, and have been for a while. I’m lifting weights, moving around heavy stuff, and I have no “squirts” or “dribbles” or anything despite those types of added physical stresses, but it takes a while, and it takes work. In the "big picture" it already seems like the recovery was a relatively short period; and I'm very glad to know that I will likely never deal with it again. When you are living it minute-by-minute, I know it's hard to think about the "big picture."
My surgeon provided me with statistics from his practice on what he has found regarding the time for his patients to get “pad-free”, and I published this in an earlier thread. Enter this link into your web browser: http://www.healthboards.com/boards/showpost.php?p=3980637&postcount=23
I wore my very last absorbancy pad 11-weeks after my surgery, so I did slightly better than average in my surgeon's sample population. I did have some “squirts” or “dribbles” for a week or so afterwards, but gone now. Here’s another link where I talked at some length about my experience (read through for where I addressed his questions #3 and #6): http://www.healthboards.com/boards/showpost.php?p=4050631&postcount=8
My doctor had told me to avoid lifting heavy objects for 6-weeks after surgery so that my abdominal incisions could heal...I imagine you received similar instructions. After 6- or 7-weeks, I started doing light abdominal exercises in which I began also incorporating Kegels with
the abs workout. I’m convinced this helped accelerate my continence recovery. I described this in some detail in the same thread above
, but as a response to question #4.
Bottom line, I wouldn't be too concerned at this early juncture.
best wishes...and my prayers for a good post-surgery pathology report for you