Just Learning Again - Infant Care (up to 18 months old) Message Board

MoonLitWillow · 03-09-2005, 06:34 PM

I had a drug problem and was not the most active parent for the first nine months of his life. My son loves me regardless and knows I'm doing my best. I live with my parents hoping to get all the advice and guidance I can but I feel like they are criticizing me nore than helping me. I know I can't let him cry for more than 20 mins at a stretch but they start flipping out at 5 mins. I'm doing my best but somethings gotta give. At 10 1/2 months old he has eight front teeth and is growing molars. Is that normal? I just don't know what to do.
~MoonLitWillow

louisianasgirl · 03-09-2005, 11:01 PM

Coming From A Mother Of 3 Little One Ages 6 Girl 4 Boy And 2 Boy Yes Although Very Early Its Normal Please Please Keep Them Brushed Even If He Cries Let Him Cry Because U Donot Want Him To Have Nasty Teeth And Although I Have Never Had A Drug Problem I Have A Friend Of 11 Years That Does Although I Dont Let Her Come To My House B/c Of This I Have Whatched Her Give Her Kids Up To There Father And Sad To Say That Her 3rd Passed Away B/c Of Sids He Was 7 Months Old And So Cute She Is Pregnant Again And She Still Is Using And Is In A Very Abusive Relationship And I Just Dont Understand It But Please Just Remember When U Look Into Your Sons Beautiful Eyes That He Is Relying On You And Please Stay Clean U Will Be Rewarded In So Many Ways I Try To Tell My Friend That All The Time I Just Wish She Would Listen Good Luck And Godspeed Perrin Keep In Touch

rouge · 03-10-2005, 06:30 AM

Babies are really hard especially at this age. 9-12 months were some of the hardest times for me. When your baby cries it's because he needs something. Maybe it is just you that he needs. If you respond to his cries right away you are showing him that he can trust you to try and meet his needs. Seperation anxiety is really strong at this age, and they cry a lot to be held. The time will pass very quicky but for now you should respond to him crying right away. It will teach him trust which will make him an easier baby when he gets older. If you let him cry even for 5 minutes it's teaching him that he has to keep crying to get your attention and that will be harder on you in the long run.

Good luck and good for you on staying clean!!