Anyone tried the no-cry sleep solution? - Infant Care (up to 18 months old) Message Board

Spanish · 12-04-2005, 04:55 AM

I'm quickly coming to realise that I'm not cut out for controlled crying.

I tried it again this morning. I know DD wasn't too tired because we took her up to her cot after she'd been awake 2.5hours only. She fussed for a bit and I ignored that but when she started crying properly I went in and soothed her then left and sat and held my hands over my ears for 2 minutes and then went back in and she calmed down again so I left and she started screaming so I waited 3 minutes and went back in and stayed with her until she fell asleep...but I didn't pick her up which is a start!!!

I'd really like to find a way of helping her nap during the day without having to resort to crying (night times aren't such a problem for some reason she's much better at putting herself to sleep at night). Has anyone tried any of the books (no-cry sleep solution / baby whisperer etc) and if so do they work. Also do they just tell you what to do every second of the day? I read Gina Ford's contented baby book and she was telling me what to do roughly every ten minutes and I know that's not going to work for me.

I've had a bit of a thought and I'd be interested in you opinions. I wonder if she goes down better at night because we have more of a routine (bath, pj's, story, last feed and then to bed). I don't get her up at a regular time each day and I'm thinking that if I always got her up at the same time and put her down for a nap at the same time she might learn that it's sleep time and drop off on her own. What do you think?

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JenW67 · 12-04-2005, 06:46 AM

Hi Spanish,

I bought the No-Cry book and it is not for me. Who has time to read a whole book let alone take on a ten step process for geting baby to sleep?

We are now sleeping through the night because we did CIO. I tried to use CIO in the day before trying it at night and had NO success. He naps better in the day now and I do nurse him or give him a bottle to get him to fall asleep and many days now he will take 2 one hour naps - not much but with him sleeping through the night, it is better.

You will find something that works for you. Have you tried CIO at night?

-Jen

brwneyez9 · 12-04-2005, 03:51 PM

My DD is 15 months old now. I have found that routine routine routine is the best for her any ways. You can tell when her routine is off. She isn't a very happy girl. We have had the same routine with her since she was like 6 weeks old. She is our first baby and i don't know how but we got very lucky. She has been the easiest baby. She was sleeping through the night at 6 weeks old and so we just got her on a routine and it helps that i work. So we have to get up at the same time everyday. Everyday she eat breakfast at the same time, morning nap same time, lunch same time, afternoon nap same time, dinner same time and bath story bed all the same time. It really does make it hard when you have some where to go or it's the weekend and you want to sleep in. It's what works for her and she is doing so well with it. I have upset her schedule before and it not fun for her or me. So we follow her schedule. It may be off a little bit a few days, but never hours off. I just try to schedule all doctor appointment and thing around nap times. Now she is getting old i think we can start taking out the morning nap. We haven't tryed yet, but i think we are going to try it soon. You just have to find out what works with you and your baby. Something that works for one doesn't always work for another. I was always told that a routine is really good for children so that is just what we decided to do. Like i said before i think we are pretty spoiled with our DD. Sleeping throught the night so easy, getting on a schedule so easy, off the bottle a six months and she hardly ever cries or gets upset about things. I keep telling my husband she has been so easy for us the second one is going to be diffcult. Good luck with your baby.

Dani Girl 78 · 12-04-2005, 03:54 PM

My son has CIO since he was about 6mths old. He has his favorite bear and blanket. I just have to lay him down and he may make a little fuss, but for the most part he is out in a few minutes. It's very difficult for people (relatives) because they want to rock him to sleep and that doens't work at all for him. He wants to lay still and have his Mr. Crunchy (bear) and blankie and some peace and quiet.

You are just going to have to figure out what works well for you and the baby. It also depends on her age if you want to let her CIO. You are doing a good job, it's hard not to pick your baby up when they are crying and upset. So keep up the good work and next time wait a few more minutes before you go in and check on her, I know it's hard but it will be good for the both of you.

Good Luck

vsmom · 12-05-2005, 03:59 PM

You just have to be brave and let them CIO for a few times. It sucks and you feel like a horrible parent but its so much quicker than trying all the other stuff. We got some earplugs and let her go. After about 45 minutes I felt like we were just trying to ignore her so we could get some sleep and I felt really bad about that so I went in. The next night was less crying and each night after was better and better. Just stick with it! Those little stinkers know you'll come in so they cry all the more. Be tough and it'll all work out. Good luck!