When DD was born 6 weeks ago my DH was wonderful. Since then he is still a great dad, but I feel like the "new" wore off for him. He will still jump up and help anytime I open my mouth, but he doesn't take the intiative to do as much anymore. DH is gone 12-13 hours a day working, and he's a great provider. I'm still on Maternity leave for now so I do almost everything for DD. DH comes home in the evenings and plays with her for a little while. He usually changes 1-2 diapers, and gives her the occational bottle of BM. He has yet to bathe her, although I do that during the day. I always have to ask, "will you watch her while I shower?" or "please hold her while I...." Everytime he has no problem, but I feel as if DD is completely my responsibility. I feel guilty a lot of the time asking him to do stuff. If DD is not in a good mood, he hands her off to me. If he's holding her while she cries, it's only b/c my hards are full at that particular moment. I then feel rushed to finish my shower or get the dishes done so I can "rescue" DD. Although my DH is not horrible in this aspect I understand where some of you are coming from.
Your post describes my situation better than I described it!
Does your camera have a timer on it, you can then take pictures of you and DD by yourself, and if not, always bring it w/ you when you go out and don't be shy about asking strangers to take pictures for you. I even do this w/ our video camera, just prop it somewhere on the counter and vidoe tape myself feeding or playing w/ DS.
dh had 2 weeks off to help me out he is now back at work. he helps out with ds when he is at home but i wake in the night for feeds and nappy changes because my dh often works away i figure i should get used to doing the night stuff alone so i am prepared for it when he works away as oppossed to it being a big shock to me. dh also helps with the housework and running errands for me. infact i give him a 9/10 he also has been really good at showering me with compliments to keep me feeling loved amd happy bless him although i agree with previous posters here i also feel ds is almost all my responsibility
I agree with the part of the kids are my responsiblity, so dont get me wrong. But WHILE i READING THESE THREADS SOMETHING OCCURED TO ME...I THINK THAT IS NATURAL AND SOMETHING THAT WOULDNT/COULDNT BE CHANGED, MY DH DOES ALOT AND WE SHARE RESPONSIBILITIES WITH HOUSE AND WORK, BUT I STILL FELL LIKE THOSE ARE MY KIDS AND MY RESPONSIBILITY. MAYBE ITS BECAUSE NO MATTER WHAT THEY ARE A PART OF ME AND I AM A PART OF THEM, WHO KNOWS MAYBE THE DADS FEEL THAT TO...I DONT KNOW, NEVER REALLY OCCURED TO ME. A BIG PART IS WE CARRIED THEM, BIRTHED THEM AND WE HAVE A SPECIAL CONNECTION THAT I DONT THINK THE BEST DAD OF YEAR COULD FEEL, A MOTHERS FEELINGS AND LOVE ARE DIFFERENT.