Since the first time I brought the baby out into public, a family wedding, he has been sick with one cold, ear infection and sinus infection after another. He just finished a round of antibiotics last week and seemed fine and exaclty one week later is showing signs of sinus infection again and also pulling on his ear and side of his face. I am going to call the doctor again on monday but I am very concerned. He has been on antibiotics 2x already and this is like the 6th time he's been sick since november. Yes he goes to daycare, I am a teacher and he goes to the school I work at. They only have 6 babies in the room at once and they keep things very clean. I absolutely have to work other wise I would stay home. What can I do? I am so worried aobut the little guy.
Well, I would say it is from the daycare and there is little you can do about it. Everyone I know that has children in daycare goes through this. My cousin is a daycare director and told me, "your baby will get sick a lot if you put them in daycare...." I was all set to go back to work but quit my job to stay home at the last minute. I was mentally preparing myself beforehand that DS was going to be sick a lot.
I know it must stink, but they say it makes it easier for when they are older since their immune system is stronger then.
I don't have much advice, sorry! I just don't think there is much you can do.
I am a firm beleiver of "if your kid is sick keep it home" To me when I was a working woman I stayed home with my child who was sick or asked my family to watch him. I know that you are probably going to read this and say well she is harsh in her words but honestly it is not meant to be read that way. I feel for you I do. If those babies are coming in sick ask the daycare why they are allowing the parents to drop of sick kids. What do they do to keep besides keep it really clean to help the spread of it?
Honestly the pulling ears can be teething as well. I dont go by what dr's say" o no no no the teething doesnt cause fever or pulling ears or pain in the face!" I am old school and have 4 kids and yes it does happen, I have NO clue how your kid can get a fever from teething without something as a virus to go along with it but it has happened and has been proved. I think teething and lowered immune system causes them to be prone to virus'. But that is just my opinion. Just because I have 4 doesnt mean I know more. Just means I've been through what everyone else has more htan once. And it's the same thing just with more kids LOL.
When the ear infection was there, are you sure it was an infection? Did dr. say there was redness,puss stuff like that in the ear when examined? FAce hurting I can only think of teeth, does baby have teeth yet? Is he is chewing on things, hands,blanket, chewing on his pacifier?
I do agree with keltokel that any child in daycare will ALWAYS be sick and there is nothing that can be done about unless they make a rule that all kids that have fevers can not be brought in unless they are free of fever for 24 hours. (that is the rule here in our school system k-12). If a child is showing signs of illness they must stay home. That is a rule that should be instilled but I am sure that parents will complain since they can not take off of work every time a child is ill but guess they should have thought of that before they had kids. Not saying you should get po'd at the daycare but maybe ask them if any of this can be done so you dont have to dred that your baby is going to keep getting sick. It is not healthy for a child to be sick all the time, they eventually hate the dr., the nurses, and mom for brining them there. About the "if they are sick now they will have a better immune system" i have no clue on because I have seen people sick as kids and never went to a dr. as an adult due to the trama they had as a kid. It can be taken either way.
You need to try your best to protect your child from this and make sure there is proper diagnosis. Teething can cause a stuffy nose as well, the change in weather can lead to congestion and post nasal drip. Post nasal drip in itself isnt that bad but can cuase soar throat and lead to coughing and also the drip can get into tummy or lungs and get into chest and THEN cause a real bacterial infection. Everything leads to something else, but might start as something simple as teething or weather change. Even if it is normal warm in house during day and at night its cool that could also have an effect of baby and you.
Sorry for being long winded just wanted to give you some stuff that I have gone through.
my ds is in day care too and has recently had a cold and 2 bouts of rsv/bronchiolitis requiring hospital admission overnight on both occassions. i also work and don't believe children in day care are always sick, they may be just more likely to pick up viruses when learning and socialising with so many other children.
YIKES! I would freak out in worry. How do you do it?
Daycare is probably one of the great reasons why you baby is possibly sick constantly. That is a choice you have to make, whether you really NEED to work and take your child to a daycare or if you stay home with him.
Thanks for the replies. I am going to call the doctor tomorrow. He does show signs of teething but no actual teeth. He has been showing signs for 2 months now. He puts everything in his mouth.
Also its not nice to try to make moms feel guilty for having to put their child in daycare. Were not all career women who want to support our keep up with the jones lifestyle. Most of us actually do have to work or the rent, utiltiies, car payment take up all the income leaving nothing for groceries, emergencies, diapers, etc. Think twice before you sit in judgement of others.
Also, in a daycare setting there are kids of all ages in the building and also other adults who my baby gets exposed to not just the sick kids in his room. Most of us parents are pretty good at keeping the kids home when sick, the problem is most of the time you are contagious before you even know your sick.
Don't some of you think I feel bad enough that I cannot afford to stay home with my baby without laying on the guilt trip? I have worked in daycare centers for 13 years and swore I would never put my child in daycare. I waited until I was in my 30s to have a baby. I lost my first baby to stillbirth. I stayed home with my son for the first 4 months. It is killing my husband and I that I had to return to work but you have to do what you need to to survive. To say maybe we shouldn't have had kids is pretty rude.
More replies from people who are in a similar situation as mine would be appreciated. I guess my biggest question is: Does there come a point when their immune system improves? How do you know when a cold is just that or if it is something more? Are there certain foods that can boost the immune system? He just started eating solids. Thanks again. . .
Aw...Hope...hang in there. It must be hard to see your baby sick. Don't feel guilty about working. My mother was a single parent so I understand that not all women can stay home. I thank God every day that I am able to. However, out of all my friends, I think I am the only one who is home. Believe me, I did want to work after the baby was born. I really loved my job and cried for weeks after I quit. I might go back after a year - we shall see.
Anyhow, you are right about being contagious before you even know it. I am sure my DS will go through the same thing whenever he does start daycare/school - whether it is when he is a year old or 5 years old.
My friend's son was sick a lot in daycare as an infant. He just turned 4 and barely gets sick at all. Same with my cousin's son - he is now 3 and is rarely sick.
Don't know if that helped at all, but I would think your baby would grow out of it. Hopefully some other people will post who are in the same boat.
ummm...not one person on here has said you are a bad parent and you should feel guilty for working and having your child in care - not one! I work 30 hours a week and luckily have a wonderful sitter. My DD has been sick once this winter.
As for my comment about "how do you do it..." I meant - get through the hardship of having a sick kid - NOT - why do you work???? I actually meant that it takes a lot of strength to have sick kids and work.
My baby was in the NICU for a few days a week after he was born and I was stressed out and sick to my stomach over it. I can't imagine having to take her to the emergency room yet so I feel for you!
But I don't see anyone judgeing a working mom on this thread.
I am copy and pasting this to explain since no one took it the way i said it.
If a child is showing signs of illness they must stay home. That is a rule that should be instilled but I am sure that parents will complain since they can not take off of work every time a child is ill but guess they should have thought of that before they had kids.
What I said was for you to go to the daycare and say that there should be a rule, If a child is showing signs of illness they must stay home. BUT i am sure that parents will complain since they can not take off of work every time a child is ill but guess they should have thought of that before they had kids. Sorry if this offened anyone but this is the mentality where I live and what I was trying to say was dont be surprised if someone says this to you. We get some real doozies around here and what childcare workers say to parents. Just trying to give you a heads up if you tell the daycare about not letting kids in if they are with fever or show signs are illness.
I have Grave's disease(hyperthyroidism) and I must not get ill because It kicks me out of remission every time. I have to be careful to not have my kids or me get sick. I feel for you that you have to deal with the that fact that these parents are bringing these kids in when they have colds and you have to suffer at home for it with baby crying and fussing. That is hard.
Not going to post about this anymore as I dont want someone to misunderstand me since i didnt make my self clear and I apologize for that. A lot of misunderstandings on this particular post so i'll just pray for baby. Hope everything works out with child and he gets better or you find out what might be wrong maybe teething or whatnot. Babies can teeth for 3-4months before they cut a tooth. Atleast what I have seen. But dont quote me on that one either. AGain good luck and hope he feels better soon.
O one more thing. I hope this sort of helps you a little. I have worked been there done that whole thing. So have known both sides of hte fence. The only reason I actually do stay home is because it is cheaper for me to stay home rather than pay for childcare for all of my kids. Adn we're not done yet, dh and I want a big family and he supports us just fine. But I just realized something, my kids get sick as well and yes I do beleive that in daycare they can get sick from kids and the workers but also they can and will get sick from going to the store as well or other places. Obviosly more of risk if near more people but my kids get sick from the carts and stuff at the store so just make sure you use your carriage or use one of those material things that you can put on the cart. It might help.
Last edited by prairie_dawn; 02-19-2007 at 09:04 AM.
DS has been in daycare (center) since he was 3 months old. I worried at first because of all the comments from people about how daycares were "germ factories". The baby room consists of 6-7 infants. They're good about cleaning, etc. Heck, I walked into the bathroom once and they were using disposable gloves to change the babies and then wiped down the changing tables with disinfectant. Smaller home daycares, a lot of times the caregiver lines up the babies and changes them all in a row..
Anyway.... Some kids just get sick. A friend of mine has a nanny -- both her kids are constantly sick with ear infections... Another is a SAHM -- kids constantly have ear infections, strep.... So far our son is probably one of the healthiest kids at the center -- nasty gastrointestinal bug hit before the holidays -- he was one of the few kids that didn't get it.
Someone mentioned the antibiotics not working-- we had that problem when DS was earlier. Seems like augmentin was the only thing that worked to knock out ear and sinus infections. If they gave us the pink stuff -- we'd be back in two weeks for the same thing. Could be any number of things - -maybe your child needs tubes, has tonsil issues -- my husbands side of the family that seemed to be the case and once they got tubes, had tonsils removed -- completely different child.
Thank you for the supportive messages everyone, I needed that. Especially today after taking baby to doctor and he has a double ear infection and sinus infection, a week after ending his last antibiotic. It was augmentin and did not mess his stomach up. Now we are trying cedax. I feel so bad for the little guy, he has lost his appetite and can't breathe through his nose. WE stayed home from work today and yes will also be tomorrow for those who are wondering. . . Today was a paid holiday but tomorrow will have to be unpaid. I have thought about a private sitter but in my situation I feel bringing him to work with me is the best. I get 50% off on childcare and can keep a close eye on him and his caregivers all day. I can pop in to say hi and spend my lunch break with him. Many lunch breaks I have rocked him to sleep for a nap or sat on the floor and played. It has helped me get to know his caregivers better too. We have no family in this state so no one I trust to leave him with. I am very uncomfotable with the idea of nanny or sitter.
Yes he may have genetic issues with ears/sinius, my husband also has those problems. So far he has had no problems with lungs, asthma or has not had to be hospitalized so I am grateful.
A friend of mine has 2 kids is a SAHM and both breastfed until 3 years old and they have had strep, stomach bug, whooping cough, etc. So thanks to all those who sympathize with my situation and everyone who took time out to post.
My newest question: the pharmacist said to give him yogurt to help with the belly during antibiotic. He is only 6 months and just started solids. Do you think that is ok to eat yogurt already? Also, should I keep giving tylenol for pain or just give the antibiotic? Thanks to all you expereinced moms out there. . .stay well
I was already giving DS yogurt by the time he was 6 months old. Yo-baby brand is a whole milk one. Another thing you could ask about is probiotics if there are stomach issues with the antibiotics. I've never used them, but have heard from others that they do. Not sure what the age limitation is. Last time DS was on augmentin -- he was 18 months old, I tried to give him as much yogurt as he wanted and I bought acidofilus (sp) milk. But he did have nasty tummy issues with it.
As mentioned before DH's side of the family had dreadful problems with ear infections and tonsil issues. MIL was a nurse who had to fight to get DH's tubes put in and tonsils removed when he was 3. Completely different child once that happened. Same story with his older brother, cousins kids AND now their children. Might be good to request a referral to an ENT.
Tylenol would make him more comfortable -- ear infections -- ouch! And if he has a fever.
in the uk we are advised we can give yoghurts from 6 months. i think ds had them slightly earlier. thet sell yoghurts which can be iused in lo's 4-6 months of age - petit filou and baby danone yoghurts. hope all is better soon
Your baby may be lacking something. We all are exposed to bacteria and virus's, but why some get sick and others don't is because their bodies cannot fight it off. Either their immune system is weak because they may be lacking something, or their body is out of balanace.
I said i wouldnt post here again because of misunderstandings but I feel I must,
hope2heal, not sure if you read what I wrote but no one hear has or is saying that you are a bad mom or any such thing. You are stressed out enough and dont need to deal with drama, no one is trying to give it so dont worry about it. You dont need to prove that you stayed home with baby boy and if you had to get a babysitter to go to work then that's what you would have had to do, no one needs to know or tell you what to do.
You and your dh, you poor dears to have to deal with this and poor baby to have to have it. Glad you were able to get it diagnosed and on the right stuff. Do you have a swing you can put him in to sleep? That is what I use with dd6months when she is congested. The saline drops in nose helps and did dr. say anything about decongestant stuff like Dimetapp(you have to get the dose from him though) or Pediacare (again dose from him). Not sure what dr. will say about it since he has a sinus infection but it might help. Steamy bathrooms do to or atleast in the bathroom sink and then have him stay there with you holding him next to the steamy sink so he can breathe it in. Warm compresses on the ears also help with ear infections. Yes the old saying to use the blow dryer is true the reason for it is because the warmth soothes the pain but warm compresses also help. If you dont have a swing you might want to put him in his carrier(we did this with the other children before we had my swing) and maybe you keep him where you will be sleeping. I usually slept on the floor near my kids just in case.
You need to take your own vitimins(dont roll your eyes) You really need to take care of yourself. The stress you are going through can takes its toll on any one. Drink plenty of water please and take those vitimins. Dont drink coffee or atleast dont add it to your water intake. Even if you have to sleep next to him or on the floor please try to sleep when ever he sleeps. Maybe ask a friend or family to make dishes for you to eat so you have left overs. Use the dishwasher or use paperproducts so you dont have to clean up a lot and can just rest with baby. Tell dh the same thing, I have seen and been there to know that a sick baby will Illness to parents and I dont mean what the baby has. I mean your body just starts to takes it toll and get sick and tired all the time. Get your checkup with dr. if you havent had an anual visit and get your bloodwork checked just to make sure... Sorry not trying to sound like your mom or anything just been there myself and have been stress with sick kid and know what it can do to your own body.
Hugs hugs and more hugs to you,dh and baby! If you are more comfortable keeping baby with you at the daycare then bringing in a nanny then do that. I actually wouldnt feel comfortable either with a nanny, although have seen nanny 911 and think I could use her every once in a while...
O banana's I forgot to say, I do think that the yogurt is a great idea. It has good bacteria that will benifit him. I personally buy the Vanilla Shoprite brand where I live. It's cheap and I can add anything to it(fruit wise i mean). you cant add anything for him but do know that he will make the sour face from it. But he'll get over the tartness eventually and you'll get a laugh at the face he makes. So you all benifit from it. Good luck
Baby had a rough night, sooo congested, mucus clogging throat I had to suction his throat which made him gag. I raised one side of his crib mattress. Today he couldn't drink the bottle, only an ounce here or there. . . He was so hungry and screaming yet couldn't drink. I called back the doctor who said the pain in his ears make it hard to suck. I gave him extra cereal today and really thinned it with lots of formula. He did eat 2-3 good meals so he is eating. Just not sucking. He hasn't sucked his Paci in days. . . should I take this opportunity to wean him from it? The doc said get tylenol cold and cough so I gave him that before bed. I am very worried about him and hope the antiobiotic works soon. Poor little guy.
Yes I am exhausted from dealing with a sick baby, I am so stressed. My husband helps me a lot, but tonight he is working very late. Yes I am taking my vitamins in good doses. Tomorrow am returning to work but will tell them if he won't eat and is screaming/crying to call me and I will take him home. I am right across the hall so I can check on him a lot.
I will keep you all posted. Thanks again for the advice.
Hope2heal I DOnt think he is old enough to take paci away. The sucking action doesnt really stop for a while yet and that can be your lifesaver when he starts to not hurt and wants to suck again. I would say keep paci. I didnt wean my 1st till he was 18months and by then he said he was done. My 2nd sucked his thumb and o man what a mistake that was. 3rd didnt wnat anything and you bet 4th is on paci now. The incline will help. Try when you are home not to go from warm to cold becaues that also causes runny/stuffy nose. Vavo rub for kids is a lifesaver as well, check with dr. to make sure it's ok for him since he has nasle issues. Dont use aspirator too too much because for some reason when we use it to clean the crap out of thier nose it just makes more come. dont know why but dr. said that to me.
My dd6months whom i thought was ok with her coughing and stuffy nose still has it so. still have her in her swing.
GOod that you are tkaing care of you. Keep the Faith honey, you'll make it through this. Promise! Hugs to littleone