Attached 10 week old - Infant Care (up to 18 months old) Message Board

2fst · 04-16-2007, 08:31 AM

My DD is 10 weeks old and is very attached to me. I thought this didn't come into play unril they are older? I am at a loss as to what to do. She is very unhappy for everyone, including DH. She won't sleep for anyone but me and she won't calmly drink her bottle for anyone but me. It is getting hard b/c my mom watches her while I work (p/t 4-5hrs/day) and the whole time my mom has her she cries off and on. The other day DH came home from work earlier so I asked him to please pick up DD so my mom would have a break and she did the same for him until I came home. She is such a great baby for me but the minute some one takes her from me she starts to fuss and complain until I take her back. My mom and DH are not strangers to her. She has been around them since birth. But the attachment thing is getting worse instead of better and I have been wokring about 3 weeks now. I can't not work - my working p/t has us already on a tight budget.

athome1 · 04-16-2007, 10:35 AM

I'm not sure what you can do about helping ease the attachment, but I can suggest you try and find a way!! My son is now 2 and is getting worse by the day. My first was never this bad. I think it started b/c when my husband would try and help, my son would cry. My husband quickly said, he doesn't want me and handed him over. If I knew then what I would be dealing with now, I would have forced him to stay with his father whether he liked it or not. I have a 2 year old attached to my hip 24 hours a day. He cries for me at night and freaks when he gets his father. It has gotten progressively worse as my current pregnancy comes closer to the end. My son is wonderful, but he always wants mommy and nobody else. It gets VERY exhausting! Good Luck

sarawithnoH · 04-16-2007, 10:40 AM

2fast, my dd is now 5 months. She was exactly the same way up until a couple of weeks ago. I couldn't hand her off to anyone...not a grandma or daddy. She would cry and cry and as soon as I'd take her back, she would stop. I think she has just gotten better as she has gotten older. Hopefully, it's just a phase that will pass. Good luck!

2fst · 04-17-2007, 05:31 AM

I hope it passes but she has gotten to the point now that when she sees my mom she drops her lower lip. I am going to bring a camera today so I can get a picture because I can't believe that she does it and it is kinda cute.

pjtadsp · 04-17-2007, 06:24 AM

my dd started to be like that at 3 mos. but now she's fine. so, it might just be a phase. my dh couldnt help but laugh when my dd used to drop her lower lip but she rarely does it now.