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Old 04-12-2010, 11:03 AM   #1
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Help! 13 month old wont take liquids from a cup!

Hi all,
I have been blessed with 3 children. My 3rd child is my only daughter and she is definitely not as easy to raise as my boys were. I feel so blessed to have her but I need some help! She is now 13 months old and will only take liquids from me thru nursing. She was breastfed since birth but I introduced the bottle around 2 weeks of age. She would be bottle fed several times a week until she refused it at 4 months old. Since then she would not take any bottle from anyone. I didnt push the issue at first but since December, i have been trying to get her to take anything from a bottle, cup, sippy cup, straw, medicine dropper. You name it, I have tried it. I even had to go thru medical testing in December and could not nurse her for 2 days, which she went on a hunger strike. Well here we are. She is 13 months old now, is taking solids by spoon easily but is no closer to taking any liquids unless it is thru my boob! I have bought out every kind of bottle and sippy cup walmart and target have to sell.

My pediatrician tells me to just go cold turkey and she will adjust but that is not sitting well with me. It is a step I will eventually take if nothing else works, but I feel like there has to be a better, less traumatic way. Since saturday, I discontinued one of my midday nursings and instead sit with her with a cup or bottle in her mouth for 10 minutes. She crys bloody murder for the entire time and it is very hard on both of us. Additionally she doent take anything in.

I am asking for advice from anyone who has been thru this and it sounds like this may be kind of common. I need a baby whisperer. I need someone to recommend to me the steps they took to wean their stubborn older baby from nursing to a cup. Please help me...
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Old 04-12-2010, 11:23 AM   #2
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Re: Help! 13 month old wont take liquids from a cup!

I agree the cold turkey thing would be a bit tramatic. Have you tried to hold her in the position as if you were going to breast feed her but instead slip a bottle or sippy cup with a soft nipple in her mouth and rest it on your breast? Maybe try to "feed" her liquids from a spoon until she gets the taste of them. Or you can even try to make it into a game, if Mommy, and Brothers are drinking from a cup and dont spill any maybe she can try. I wish you luck on this!!

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Re: Help! 13 month old wont take liquids from a cup!

Is she cutting teeth? That's always my first standard question when a baby refuses to drink from a cup. I know that can't have always been the reason, especially since she refuses bottles too, but it's still a good thing to check. And actually, if she was possibly teething at 4 months, she might be associating teething pain with the bottle or cup and is afraid to try it..... just some wild speculations on my end.

When you nurse, how fast is your flow? If she's used to milk coming out faster than it does in a bottle (because even the fast flow nipples can be excruciatingly slow to an older baby!), you might try cutting a bigger hole in the nipple so she doesn't have to work so hard to get the milk out. Also, depending on the bottle, you might need to loosen the cap a little bit (not a lot, but sometimes if the cap is too tight, it actually does something weird to the bottle, I have no idea what, but it makes the milk flow slower).

I wouldn't do cold turkey unless you absolutely need to stop nursing. But keep trying the gradually cutting back one feeding at a time. Don't cut out a crucial feeding though (the ones where you are nursing her at naptime or bedtime....). She'll be too tired to want to try anything new and it will just be a fight.

Hope something here can help. I've got 3 girls but they've all inherited their dad's love of food..... so they never cared where it came from!

 
Old 04-13-2010, 12:47 PM   #4
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Re: Help! 13 month old wont take liquids from a cup!

Thanks for your feedback!

She is teething but I dont think she was teething when this started. She didnt get teeth until 8 months and this started at 4...so I would guess she wasnt teething then???

Anyway, I did try the holding as if I were breastfeeding position and slip in the bottle nipple-unsuccessful at this point. She is so stubborn. I am forcing the cup issue instead of 1 nursing in the midday, after a nap, and she will scream and arch her back and hold her mouth closed for the entire 10 minutes. The only positive is that she responds great when I stop at the end of the 10 minutes. She will cuddle and just lay her head on my shoulder for about another 10 minutes till she calms down. And for as much as the screaming is killing me, I love that she gets over it and knows that I still love her and I cherish that snuggle time!

I have been changing the type of bottles/sippy cups I use and she starts screaming as soon as she sees them. Today's bottle was a very fast flow tip and she was gagging the whole time bc the milk would just almost pour out. But other days I have not used that fast of a tip. Do you think I should stick with one cup/bottle and just be consistent with that or still experiment to see if she finds a nipple she likes?
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Old 04-20-2010, 08:13 PM   #5
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Re: Help! 13 month old wont take liquids from a cup!

Want to give an update-1 week later....

I have cut out a second nursing. So now I only nurse her first thing in the morning and late thing at night. And yet still she is so stubborn and not taking an ounce of liquid from a cup. I was finally able to get her to take a little of the Yo-Baby drinkables from the cup container...so small progress i guess? This is getting very frustrating.

This weekend coming up is the big event, the weekend I will be away at a continuing ed seminiar and wont be around to nurse. 2 days away from mama. So I plan to make friday my last nursing-forever! Very sad to break it off this way, but for all of our sakes, it may be the only way. Cross your fingers she gets thirsty enough to take liquids from a cup! I will update you next week on how it goes. And without saying, any suggestions are greatly appreciated.
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Re: Help! 13 month old wont take liquids from a cup!

My only advice is that once you make the decision to quit, don't go back! Even at 13 months, our children can be quite manipulative and controlling, and if she senses a weakness in your resolve, she might just continue the drinking strike until you give in and start nursing her again. As long as she sees that you aren't going to give in, she'll eventually give up and start loving the cup. So hang in there!!!

Good luck!

 
Old 04-21-2010, 03:44 PM   #7
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Thanks for that imput. I will definitely keep that in mind.

So at 7:30 am this morning I get a phone call and it is CHOP and they had a cancellation at their feeding clinic and wanted to know if i wanted to come in. So we got to go this afternoon and get evaluated by the MD, Speech, OT, nutritionist, and psychologist. While i never thought she had a medical issue this is what i had to go thru to get to see a behavioral specialist. In a nut shell, they dont believe she has any medical issues but may have reflux. They also noticed she has an unusual aversion to the cup in general. We put her yogurt (a food favorite) in a cup and she wouldnt eat it if spooned from the cup but would eat it if i spooned from the yogurt container-go figure! Anyway, while she is a healthy weight she has not gained more than a pound since her 9 month appointment. So they are concerned about inadquate intake. All in all, they asked me to bump up to 3 nursings again for the fluid intake and gave me a plan of care to make her snack food more liquid. All in all i am excited to have a plan of action but the problem remains, I am leaving for a 9 day cruise (with just my hubby) in 1 month and it doesnt appear she will be weaned in that time-ahhhhh! I really have no plans to take my child on this cruise and I have no plans to cancel-I am stressing!
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Old 04-22-2010, 12:53 AM   #8
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I wish you both luck. I know it will be ok. If anything try to feed her foods with plenty of "juice" in them. Does she like watermelon, sugar free popsicles (sp), or soup? If anything that will keep her hydrated. Keep trying different nipples, she may like on of them. I was told by a friend that her daughter would only take medium flow latex nipples while she was breast feeding her. Good luck and please keep us informed. I hope all goes well, and remember she will not starve herself, if she gets thirsty or hungry enough she will take it.


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Old 04-29-2010, 12:52 PM   #9
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Re: Help! 13 month old wont take liquids from a cup!

Okay! Making progress!

Slow progress but progress. She is allowing me to spoon feed her drinkable Yo-baby yogurts and spoon feed her flavored (chocolate or strawberry) milk. So while still no cup or sippy cup, I feel this is progress and I will keep at it.

Thanks for your suggestions Jennypooh, I have been making her cereal with fruit in the morning more liquid. So maybe that is why she is more accomodating to the liquids on a spoon. Hey I will take anything.

I will keep you posted on what I hope is more progress!
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I empathise with you and your struggle. One thing that hasn't been mentioned is that YOU are doing this to your daughter. You might find that she will tkae a cup or sippy cup or whatever from another member more readily than you. She's smart and she realizes that you are the momma milk and why drink from a cup, bottle YOU are holding when YOU are the milk?

My youngest wound NEVER take a cup or bottle from me..from my hubby or the sitter-sure-but not MOM. He went from me to a cup-but his dad started the cup-not me. It may not work. but it's worth a chance.

You've got to admire her...she's got your number. They are amazing liltte creatures, aren't they? Trust me, when she does go to a cup, she won't be traumatized for life...you may, but she won't.

 
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Ibake&pray......I enjoyed your little story! lol. Cute. Anyway, some kids are just so darn stubborn. And they are all different. I'm pregnant with my fourth and if I have learned anything from the other 3, it's to expect the unexpected. My 2nd child didn't potty train until he was almost 5!!!!!! He starts kindergarten in the fall and has only been potty trained for about 3 months now. All you can do sometimes is be consistant and know that this WILL change.............eventually. I think your doing a great job though! Good luck!
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Hi all,
I have been blessed with 3 children. My 3rd child is my only daughter and she is definitely not as easy to raise as my boys were. I feel so blessed to have her but I need some help! She is now 13 months old and will only take liquids from me thru nursing. She was breastfed since birth but I introduced the bottle around 2 weeks of age. She would be bottle fed several times a week until she refused it at 4 months old. Since then she would not take any bottle from anyone. I didnt push the issue at first but since December, i have been trying to get her to take anything from a bottle, cup, sippy cup, straw, medicine dropper. You name it, I have tried it. I even had to go thru medical testing in December and could not nurse her for 2 days, which she went on a hunger strike. Well here we are. She is 13 months old now, is taking solids by spoon easily but is no closer to taking any liquids unless it is thru my boob! I have bought out every kind of bottle and sippy cup walmart and target have to sell.

My pediatrician tells me to just go cold turkey and she will adjust but that is not sitting well with me. It is a step I will eventually take if nothing else works, but I feel like there has to be a better, less traumatic way. Since saturday, I discontinued one of my midday nursings and instead sit with her with a cup or bottle in her mouth for 10 minutes. She crys bloody murder for the entire time and it is very hard on both of us. Additionally she doent take anything in.

I am asking for advice from anyone who has been thru this and it sounds like this may be kind of common. I need a baby whisperer. I need someone to recommend to me the steps they took to wean their stubborn older baby from nursing to a cup. Please help me...

 
Old 05-01-2010, 09:10 AM   #13
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Re: Help! 13 month old wont take liquids from a cup!

50 years ago it would never have occurred to anyone to think that kids should stop nursing at 13 months!! Before our modern ideas it was natural for kids to wean themselves as late as 4 years old! I nursed two babies (one weaned herself at 21 months and the other over 3 - they are now grown and productive, successful happy healthy ( and perfect teeth almost no cavities) adults! Personally I think that a mother should nurse her kid as long as she comfortable, because the longer they get the breastmilk and the contact the better for them! In my day we gave the kids bottles so they could still suck if we needed to stop nursing, offering a cup (some kids LOVE it) for when they were ready. Not one of us, friends, etc ever had a problem from letting the kids have bottles as long as they wanted (as long as it was quick and not leaving it in a crib to rot out your teeth) and not sugar stuff like straight juice.
I say, there are fads with time. They come and go. I say as moms we need to listen to our own intuition and highest inner knowing and listen to each child as to what they are telling us they need.

 
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My advice is to make sure you are not holding her while trying the cup, as she may associate that position to breastfeeding not drinking from a cup. My DS is 13 months and can hold and drink from a sippy with no help from me. If held he gets upset as that's the position for breastfeeding.

 
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