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Old 02-12-2006, 02:28 AM   #1
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When does a women become infertile?

At what age does a woman become infertile? I haven't had children yet but I am getting old. Is it at menopause or before?

A doctor on Oprah said at age 27 there's a 33% reduction and by age 32 more than 50%. Does that mean I wouldn't be able to get artificial insemination as well? I wish I could adopt but the adoption agency wants a large "donation" to give to a single female, so I will go through the insemination route when there are children in foster homes I'm not qualified due to my marital status, for adopting but financially and mentally am capable of.

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Old 02-12-2006, 07:12 AM   #2
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Re: When does a women become infertile?

As far as I know, the older you get the harder it is to get pregnant. I thought that after 35 they say your chances drop and then after 40 they drop even more?? Now, there are many women on this site that are around 35 and older that have conceived, so don't give up hope! You can definitely do inseminations (IUI) as long as you have eggs that are growing. Have you seen a specialist? Have you started any treatments? Also, just to give you a little hope, my friend is going to be 39 and she is pregnant with her 3rd child, due in May. Her other two children are under the age of 5! I definitely think each person is different and I would definitely see a doctor soon to make a game plan if you have not already done so. It is too bad that the adoption agency is looking for different "donations" from you than a married couple!! Have you thought about over seas adoption, (Russia, Bulgaria, China)?
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Old 02-12-2006, 07:13 AM   #3
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Re: When does a women become infertile?

I've read that after 1 to 2 years of TTC w/o a pregnancy, a couple is considered infertile. Then, or even before then, there are several tests you can do to determine what is (or who has) the infertile factor. They say that about 50% of the time it's the male. But there is a small percent of couples that have both. (That's the category I'm in, and that's why I'm in this board. My husbands sperm count is low and my cycles aren't regular. We're trying IVF with ICSI next month.) Even if you find that you have infertility, there are so many options besides adoption, if you want to explore them. Of course, the success rates vary with age.
I would go talk to your OBGYN and get both you and your partner tested to see what's up. Then, you could talk to a fertility specialist, if one is recommended. They'd be able to tell which option would work best for you.
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Old 02-12-2006, 07:27 AM   #4
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Re: When does a women become infertile?

km is right, after trying to conceive for 1 year, a couple is considered to have fertility problems. There is also a category of unexplained infertility (which is where my husband and I fall) meaning, there is no reason that we are not getting pregnant. Neither one of us have any problems that can be found, and I have been pregnant before (lost the baby in July). So, it really all depends on the people involved and the info gathered by your doctor.

 
Old 02-12-2006, 03:07 PM   #5
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Re: When does a women become infertile?

camrie313 I'm sorry to hear you are having difficulity getting pregnant, especially that you lost your baby in July, that is very sad and must be difficult to go through.

The statistics I gave refer to women having a baby for the very first time. km7503 as far as your friend getting pregnant at 39 with her 3rd child, they say once you have one, it is much easier to get pregnant at an older age, but after 32 to conceive naturally for the first time becomes an uphill battle...

I did go to a specialist about a year ago and was on a roll to get things started, but I got negative support from my family members (sisters, mother etc). They think it is the most selfish thing in the world to have a baby without a father there. That's why I have waited this long, waiting to get married but going to a university then working full time leaves little time to date, let alone get to the stage of getting married so unfortunately I have no prince charming in my life, but already have a hard time dealing with the fact that in my 30s I sitll do not have any children. I always wanted to be a young mom and it is bothering me.

I applied for adoption about a year and a half ago and that's when all that donation trouble came into the picture. I looked into adopting from overseas, I would be more than happy to adopt a cute little baby from Russia or china etc but I would have to hire expensive international attorneys, it is not cheap, probably more expensive than adopting from here, except the waiting isn't as long, maybe that's why people adopt from there...

Well, I'll see what I can do. It's hard taking a big step like insemination when not only do I have no support but my family frowns down at it, calling it selfish (they said similar things for adopting by the way). I guess I'll end up an unfortunate person with no children. My much younger sister got pregnant before marriage and my mother arranged for a nice wedding and the whole thing. Two years later they were separated and she got pregnant again, but poor her, she gets showered with attention and pitty when she's on welfare, and only recently after seven years of bumming around and getting into trouble is getting her act together, but here I am responsible, working my whole life but I don't deserve to have a child as a single parent... anyways, had to get this chip off my shoulder, cuz my eggs aren't getting any younger and I don't want to have more regrets in the future.
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Old 02-12-2006, 03:23 PM   #6
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Re: When does a women become infertile?

I was 29 when we started having troubles and I was extremely worried about my age. Both my gyn and my RE have both told me that it is one thing I have going for me...I am now almost 31 and they are still telling me I am young and have "plenty of time". My gyn told me that you don't have to start "worrying" until you are over 35, but then your chances do go downhill...now, that is for someone who is having trouble conceiving. If you are healthy and would othewise be able to conceive normally, your chances are going to be better and the possibility of getting pregnant is not as low as if you have had problems to begin with. There are MANY people who are waiting until they are "older" to become parents and I have known several who have had their FIRST over the age of 35. You didn't mention your exact age, but I would not lose hope...especially if you don't have any inferility problems to speak of - which I guess you might not know if you haven't tried, but I'm talking about ENDO or PCOS or Fibroids, the obvious things that you might know ahead of time.

To exactly answer your question, a woman only becomes infertile due to age at menopause or when she stops having periods. As long as you are having periods, you always have a CHANCE to become pregnant (as long as everything is healthy and working inside.)

I'm sorry that your family isn't backing your decision. That must be very hard to be doing this alone with no support. I know there is a girl on the pregnancy boards, QT314 that is doing this alone, as well. She did IVF twice and is due in June. She was a little worried about her families support and didn't tell them until after the 1st trimester, but they ended up being supportive of her. It's your life and you can do with it what you please...I would have done the same thing if I had not married the man of my dreams. I was raised by a single mom and, although it wasn't the perfect life, it was better than having a father who didn't love my mother or me...there are many families out there with 2 parents that are MUCH WORSE OFF than a one parent home with all the love that you have to give. Just a thought. Don't give up on your dreams just because your family can't find it in their hearts to agree with your decisions.

Best of luck to you and keep us posted on what you decide!! We're all here for support if you need it.

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Old 02-12-2006, 03:55 PM   #7
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Re: When does a women become infertile?

Ravae, your words mean so much to me. You have made my day. That was the first time anyone has given me that much support, I think that's what I need to remind myself it's my life and I can do what will make me happy. So far I have no children to make THEM happy since I am single, but I am losing sleep at the thought this time period might be my last chance. I don't want to be too old either, I can tell I am less energetic than I was in my 20s.

Thanks for the support, you don't know how much that has helped me. I guess everyone's body is different, just that guest doctor really shook me, he said it was a myth to get pregnant til menopause without the chances dwindling significantly, and he gave those statistics that were shocking, how the chances decrease drastically starting from late 20s and much more by 32 and older...combined with all the hormones and junk in our foods it makes it a tough thing to wait but I have hope, just needed some support, thanks.
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Old 02-12-2006, 04:20 PM   #8
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Re: When does a women become infertile?

Boardbabe- I am very sorry for what you are going through. It is a shame that your family can not be supportive and put their personal views aside. I do not want to interfere with family business, but all I can say is that you need to do what is best for you in your life. You are absolutely right that you don't want to wake up one day and regret the decisions that you have made. If having a baby is what you want in life, than you need to go for it! Your family may come around when they see that you are serious in your decision to have a child. I am always here to listen if you need to get it off your chest! I wish you the best of luck, just remember to follow your heart!
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Old 02-18-2006, 03:14 PM   #9
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Re: When does a women become infertile?

The only way to determine infertility due to age is through blood testing on day 3 of your cycle. They will be looking at FSH which increases in women as they get closer to menopause. Estrogen is used to release your eggs until you get into the ovarian reserve stage, before menopause. At this stage, FSH increases in your body to release the eggs. With today's technology, meds are administered to produce more eggs, meds with FSH. If you already have a high FSH, your chances of conceiving go down to less than 10%. If there has been any woman in your family, esp your mother's side, who went through menopause at a young age, you could be at risk of being in ovarian reserve stage earlier than expected, as early as 28 for some women, although it is rare. It is important to know that if you are at that stage and you are 40, it is still not impossible to become pregnant, it can still happen. I wouldn't waste much time with an OBGYN, although it will be more expensive, find a good RE.

 
Old 02-18-2006, 08:27 PM   #10
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Re: When does a women become infertile?

That is some terrific info. subaair. I will definitely get my FSH levels tested, can't wait to find out what they are. Now for my stupid question - what is an RE? same as registered nurse? Thanks!
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Old 02-19-2006, 07:33 AM   #11
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Re: When does a women become infertile?

It's not a stupid question! I wasn't sure at first either until I went to the abbreviation list!
An RE is a Reproductive Endocrinologist, someone specialized in fertility.

 
Old 02-20-2006, 07:59 PM   #12
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Re: When does a women become infertile?

excuse me but that doctor must be wrong in saying that at 32 your chances of conceiving drop to 50%. If you are healthy, eath right, do excersice why would you have a 50% decreased chance at 32? hahahaha I am 32 myself and I look no different to any 25 year old gal. First time I ever heard of this. My aunt did had a miscarriage but she was attempting to have a child at age 40. And she did got pregnant in her second attempt at age 40. Had a beautiful healthy baby. So it all boils down to health. If your hormones are right, your cervix is right,your fallopian tubes are right, you don't have anything like endometriosis (still a friend of mine with bad endometriosis give birth right off the first attempt at age 34) and you are healthy you don't need to worry about IVF's until you are in your late 30's to 40;s.

 
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