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athena7 · 09-22-2006, 10:33 AM

Hi everyone, I’m new to this forum, although , I’ve posted in TTC
I am 32 and have been with my partner for 2,5 years, we have never used oral contraceptives, but we used condoms during the days that I was supposedly ovulating. Now, we have been officially trying for about 3 months. I am using OPK and discovered that I actually ovulate on CD 17-18, not on CD 14-15 as I had assumed. That means that all the calculation I had made during these past 2+ years (that we were using condoms) was wrong, and I should have gotten pregnant a long time ago.
I went to see a RE for first time, and he said that I was infertile, that I probably have endometriosis (because of my bad menstrual pains and pain during intercourse) but the technical approach is always the same: IUI, and especially IVF. He was very insistent about IVF. Then he did a sonogram which was normal, and sent me to get some tests done in preparation for IUI, and a semen analysis for my DH.
Now, something that I forgot to tell him is that my husband and I have only been having sexual relations with penetration once or twice a month. The reasons are topic for another post, but anyway, I’m still in shock after my visit to the RE and somehow in denial … I was crying the whole night refusing to acknowledge my situation… Do you think the doctor was being too extremist or business like? Should I see another one?, or as hard as it is, I have to accept his diagnosis and approach?

Thank you in advance for your help and lots of baby dust for all of you!

berks936 · 09-22-2006, 11:17 AM

Hi Athena, I am all new to this too. I know how upset you are right now, the diagnosis is new and the emotions are flying. I f you are uncomfortable with the approach your dr. used, then go see someone else!! Second opinions never hurt. when my dr. first thought that I was infertile, he sent me for all sorts of tests before telling me that my only option was IVF or adoption. he checked to see if I ovulated properly (some blood test) and then he injected dye through my reproductive system to see if my tubes were blocked. thats where they found the problem so thats where the testing stopped. As for accepting your situation, that comes with time. We all had to deal with the emotions you are feeling right now, but once you are on the road and actively doing something about it (whether that be IVF, IUI or something else) it wont feel so hopeless.

sommer320 · 09-22-2006, 12:26 PM

Hi,
Sounds like your doc was an A double S. You should see someone who has a little more understanding and can be a little more tactful. Any doctor who is "businesslike" in this situation is an idiot. Go get a second opinion and somone who makes you feel good. good luck!

ASPROUSEY05 · 09-22-2006, 12:48 PM

without doing tests and monitoring u via u/s and getting all the info i would not tell u that u are infertile or have endometriosis.. u need to be clinically diagnosed, ALOT of women have extremely painful periods and do not have nedometriosis..and bc technically u have not really been trying long enough to make that decision just yet that u are infertile... even tho u think u may have not used a condom when u were ovulating, at the time u werent actually trying.. so until u have really tried for a yr or if tests dont show anything i would not give u a definitive answer. no remember infertile does not mean that u cant have children!!! it means that u have been trying for a yr and have had no success.. so there is def hope.. i really hope things work out for u, and us ladies will be here for u whenever u need!!!!!!

rbettis · 09-22-2006, 01:26 PM

athena7
I am an example of that. I have endometriosis. And the only option for me was IVF. I did 4 IUI and they didn't work. I changed Dr and he found out through test that my endometriosis had completely plugged all my fallopian tubes. We did one IVF and it took. DH and I just turned 40 on May and June and our first pregnancy.

athena7 · 09-22-2006, 05:08 PM

Thank you all from the bottom of my hearth for your words of support and advice.

It helps so much to feel that we are not facing this problem alone. So far DH and I haven't mentioned anything to anyone, and I honestly don't want anybody to know, I just don't feel ready yet. This forum is my only way of ventilating my feelings and share thoughts with ladies like you, who know the stress I'm going through as well as I understand yours.
Thankfully nowadays there are alternative ways to conceive and we can have access to them. I feel better now!

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