So, my best friend from back home sent me a link. She said "You're going to hate me for showing you this, but I want you to find out now rather than later." (Keep in mind, she is the ONE person who knows we are dealing with IF.)
So what is it? A weblog of my DH's ex-girlfriend from high school. Yes, that was years and years ago. But they dated for 5 years, so still significant. Anyway, obviously we've moved on with our adult lives, she's married and we're married, and we don't even live in the same state, so it's not a huge deal. (regardless, she was a bia. haha) Never really gave it another thought.
So what does that weblog say? "After a year of trying and one successful IVF, we're having a baby!" I look down a bit, and the groups that she belongs to are all PCOS groups. The exact problem I have.
Am I an awful person for wanting to fly across the country to just throw an egg at her car? Possibly her garage as well? I mean, for pete sake. My husband's ex from high school (the only other girl he's dated significantly) and we have the EXACT same problem?? Yet she's pregnant and I'm not.
Yeah, go ahead and tell me I'm overreacting. No, of course I'm not really going to do it...we can't afford the plane ticket! But if only we could...at this point i think I would honestly do it. Maybe that's why God keeps a tight reign on our checkbook...to keep me from lashing out at other women across the country!
Do i think you are over reacting? yes but i know you cant help being angry and frustrated that things havn't worked out as fast as you'd like i do the. I would be more annoyed at your "friend" for bringing it to your attention and causing you so much upset as the ex cant help the fact that she has pcos anymore than you can and she is problably as desperate for a child than the rest of us its just hit a nerve b/c she used to be with dh!
Try to think of it this way:dont concern yourself with things you cant control(her being pg)all you can do is influence what you can(by continuing with the if process&thinking positive).
And no your not an awfull person
I'm not really THAT mad...I've calmed down a bit. I think it was mostly because I read the email last night super late so I was tired. And also, I honestly don't like this girl. So I think those two things combined made me react a tad stronger than I normally would have. I'm just a tad embarassed by my outburst. But at the time, it's what I felt and so I let it out.
I'm not mad at my friend. Honestly, it's kind of one of those small town things. when I started dating my DH (over a year after he and his ex had broken up) she started up some rumors about me out of jealousy. Very immature, very first grade. Anyway, everyone in the town knows that she hates me (still) and that I'm not fond of her. So either my friend told me, or she would. As in, she would send us a baby anouncement just to give us a punch in the gut. She did it with her wedding invitation: sent my DH one that said "beat you to it" written on it.
Kind of a long story, but it comes down to me being thankful I found out already. It's purely ironic that we both have PCOS...a little odd, isn't it? The two significant women my DH has dated, and they both have PCOS. What are the odds? Anyway, she's just that woman in my life...if anyone can identify with that.
I'm probably still being immature. But I put up with pregnant women all day every day. I just threw a baby shower last weekend. I feel like at least back at home, nobody was giving me the baby grief yet.
Just how I feel. It is what it is. I can't change it. I am just a tad emotional. But that's just the way it is.
Kate, I don't think you're a horrible person at all. I know what it's like dealing with 'that woman' in your life. My BF was dating a girl before me who would not accept the fact that he didn't want to be with her anymore. She did everything she could to sabotage our relationship when we started dating. She even tried to fight me! As immature as it sounds, I would not be sorry to hear that she was stung by 50 bees and had huge welts all over her body. Having said that, I'm glad to hear that you are not as peeved about the situation as you were before. I can't believe she actually sent your DH a wedding invitation saying beat you to it. Well, life is not a race, and one day, she will realize that.
Soon enough, you will have your own baby and you will be too happy in your bliss to give her a second thought.
Holly
Last edited by TryN2BMommy; 05-04-2007 at 11:21 AM.
Well I don't think I could put it any better that Holly did. You are for sure not a bad person. It is hard to hear this news about some-one who you especially don't like and from what I can see I can't blame you she sounds like a real shallow person if you ask me. Like Holly said life is not a race and she may be pregnant first but your marriage will last a lifetime, if she sent that invitation to DH then I highly doubt her's will. Raise your head up high from what I know about you in the short time you have been on the board you are kind and sweet and those are things to be proud of. You are the better person, in fact your DH would not be with you if you were not so she can kiss your sassy frass!! LOL!!
But if only we could...at this point i think I would honestly do it. Maybe that's why God keeps a tight reign on our checkbook...to keep me from lashing out at other women across the country!
Having said that, I'm glad to hear that you are not as peeved about the situation as you were before. I can't believe she actually sent your DH a wedding invitation saying beat you to it. Well, life is not a race, and one day, she will realize that.
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