I am new to the board. My husband and I are in our early thirties and going on 4 years of trying the "natural" way. The urologist is optimistic that if we give it a few more years something might happen. I am going to my first clinic meeting soon and I am a little... . Is there any advice out there about what I should ask or anything I should be aware of before I go in there?
Hi & welcome to the board! I think you and your DH made the right decision by seeing a specialist! Your first appt will probably be more geared toward the specialist asking you and your DH questions about your medical histories. He will most likely order b/w for you and a semen analysis for him. He may or may not do a u/s as well.
It's hard to say what questions you should ask w/o knowing your history. Do you have normal periods? If not, you can ask the dr how to regulate them. Do you have painful periods? If so, you can ask the dr about endometriosis. There are really any number of things that could be getting in the way of pg, but the important thing is that you have made the decision to get help, and now you're on your way!! I wish you so much luck. Let us know how the appt goes.
Salut cherie!! I start by saying I don't know if this is male IF or female, so take a grain of salt with everyhting I say, d'accord?
Well, first of all welcome to the boards!! I'm sure you've found how sweet and warm the ladies (and gents) are here!!
Thre are lots of questions you must have!! What I did, is write them all down. All lot of the quesitons you write down will be answered over the course of the examination. Don't forget, write down all of your 'symptoms' as well. And everything that you have been doing over the past four years... whether it was just the BD, or timed BD, or taking supplements (herbal or otherwise) Every littl ebit helps. And that way, you won't leave the office saying "Damn, I should have said ________. I wonder if that would change anything!" Take your time with the list. When I was doing self-diagnostic tests (attention, cherie, be careful with those, if you decide to try) I would type in everything that I htought had NOTHING to do with my periods not coming (like facial hairs, overweight, acne) and apparently those are some of the most common signs for PCOS. So write down everything that comes to mind.
Et, cherie, do not let them leave until they have answered every question of your. Oui, they have many people to see, mais you have made this appointment in advance to get answers abotu your health. And you know what, I am sure that if your urologist says you can get pg in a few years, then you have a reason to be hopeful. (I do not know you situation so I can't say anything more. And I don't know if this is male factor IF or female) But there are steps you can take to make it happen sooner thn later.
Let us know how everything goes, or if you have more questions!!!!
Welcome to the boards! I think you have made the right decision! My ob/gyn kept telling me it would happen and it never did. I finally self refered and found out my ob/gyn was wronge! Chances were very tiny that it would happen on its own. I am now 37 and in the fertility world age matters. I only wish we had followed my gut years before we took matters into our own hands.
As far as questions I didn't have a clue what to ask or say other than... Look I think there is a problem don't you think I should be preg by now?! But, turned out RE opened our eyes to so much at that first meeting without my asking anything.
Hi, HerenHopin, welcome to the board. I just wanted to wish you luck with your appt. I agree with everyone that it was a great desicion for you to take this step. I had my first appt. last Nov. and I'm feeling a lot better about what my DH and I are doing to get to our BFP. At first it might be overwhelming - I think this is normal. Don't be afraid to ask any and all the questions that come to you during your appt. They'll probably ask you a lot of questions about your medical history and your menstrual cycle. They'll also probably talk about getting your DH's swimmers tested and you'll probably need to do some bloodwork. That's what happened at our first appt. I hope you find the answers to help you get your BFP! I'll be thinking about you and your DH. -Christine
I just wanted to say that Princess' suggestion about writing your questions down ahead of time is a very good suggestion!! It's about the only way you will remember everything you want to bring up at the appt. Once again, good luck to you!!!
Welcome! You already had so much good advice in this thread I have nothing to add ~ definitely be ready with your questions about the whole process of investigation, time-scales and options, in IF you have to be a little pushy
You definitely did the right thing seeking advice, we all hear "it will happen" at the beginning, and for some it does, but I think after 1 year it is ok to ask questions and longer than that is it good to get action!
Good luck with everything. This is a good board so ask away!!