Well, I was just so torn in my thoughts on this so, I thought I would see how you ladies felt about this.
DH and I bowl every Friday on a league. A couple on another team who recently had a baby girl after a tube reversal......if that's what it's called. She and I found out we were pregnant on the same day about 2 years ago. Since, I have been pregnant many times and still no baby.... and like I said, she has a perfect little girl. They have been around to see my struggle and seem to almost feel guilty for how event free things seem for them..... she is in her early 40's and conceived the first month after her reversal.
They just found out that her daughter, from a previous marriage, is pregnant. She is 18 and the dad is 16. The dad already said he doesn't want anything to do with this or any child and wants her to abort. The couple..... the parents of this young lady, took my husband aside tonight and said that they are talking to her about adoption and has already mentioned us, to her. After thinking about it, she asked them to talk to us and plan a day to all sit down to discuss this. They wanted to talk to him about it so he could use the necessary caution when mentioning it to me, if it was even something we would consider. He said they want to talk to me about it but, wanted to respect the emotional side of all of this and let me have time to think and kinda be ready for the talk rather than just hitting me with it. They are always thinking ahead when it comes to this and I appreciate it as I am often emotional even when I try not to be. They stressed to DH that they feel everything happens for a reason and they want us to adopt the baby. The mother had plans for college and is not happy about this pregnancy. She keeps saying she would mess up her life, the dads life and the baby's life if she keeps it.
While we were eating dinner after bowling was done, DH mentioned all of this to me. So here I am hours later..... I cant even sleep. It is so early in her pregnancy but, I cant help but get excited. I feel if she decides this is what is best for her and he little one..... I feel it will be a unique situation...... I see so many positives and I am trying to think of why we would and wouldn't do this. No matter what happens it touched my heart knowing that they thought of us in this situation.
I have thought about being involved in the pregnancy, not getting to attached, how to handle the relationship with the biological family if we adopted this baby.......I feel like I have thought of so much already. I am so amazed that my DH is even on the same page as I am and even though we know it may not even happen, we want it to happen.
So, I thought I would see if anyone has heard of any adoption like this might be. Or how any of you might feel if presented with this.
I know it is really an odd post! I thought of all people I would mention this to..... all of you here would understand the crazy feelings I have just thinking about this. Thanks for reading this...... hugs to all of you