Your thoughts on voluntarily childless couples? - Infertility Message Board

Hersher · 02-19-2003, 08:24 PM

Hello,

I was wondering if any of you folks had any thoughts on couples that are biologically able to bear children but, for whatever reason, decide not to?

Mindoo · 02-19-2003, 08:35 PM

That was me up to about 4 years ago. When my first niece was born, I had a huge change of heart. There is nothing wrong with being voluntarily childless. However, children are extremely wonderful gifts whether you conceive, adopt, or become a foster parent.

tazink · 02-19-2003, 08:50 PM

I think it is completely up to each individual or couple as to whether or not they want to have children. I hold not gurdges towards them. They may some day have a huge change of heart and want children. Not having them regardless of whether or not they can is completely up to them.

autumnleaves · 02-20-2003, 10:26 AM

I agree...and it is better to live with this choice than with other choices in cases of unwanted pregnancies.

Emster69 · 02-20-2003, 10:29 AM

I think people who don't want children shouldn't have them, but they should not pick on those of us who do. I was really frustrated this summer when a friend's husband was talking about how he doesn't want any more-(he has one from each of 2 marriages) and asked where do you draw the line on how many, etc. Said he didn't think people should have more than 2 or 3. I think I'd like to have a housefull if I could pull it off!