Happy and Sad - Infertility Message Board

Dennylou · 05-23-2003, 12:30 PM

Hi everyone,

I found out that my cousin is pregnant. I am happy for her because she has been trying for awhile and both of us have been frustrated that we have been unable to get pregnant. She recently found out that she is pregnant and although I am very excited for her, I am also sad that I am not the one that has been able to share the news that I am pregnant. I am just wondering how you all deal with being happy for someone else getting pregnant when you want it to be you so badly.

Jeena · 05-23-2003, 01:14 PM

Hi Denny, I know how you feel hearing PG news from your friends or nearones when you are struggling to get PG for long time. It is ok to feel sad and then get mad thinking why you are not the one to share this news. I have lot of my friends and cousins getting PG and some who already have one and they are trying for second. I always keep thinking why not me but then think may be God is having some special plans for me.
Be strong, one day you will get the chance to share your news ! Are you trying naturally or taking any treatment ?

Jeena

mommawannabee · 05-23-2003, 01:16 PM

Hi Denny - I'm sorry you're sad, but this is completely normal to feel this way. I've had lots of friends/family pop up pregnant and after the initial pain and hurt that comes along with me questioning myself is over, the happiness just naturally consumes me for them. We all know that it is not that person, its just the ache that you have in your heart that won't go away.

Give it time, you'll feel better about things in a bit.

tazink · 05-23-2003, 02:23 PM

DennyLou - sorry that you are having a hard time w/ this. I wish both of you were pg at the same time. I think we deal with it just b/c we have too, not b/c we want too. Don't feel guilty about being sad or even a little mad.

I will send you lots of baby dust and hopefully you will be pg soon too

Amy

MrsR · 05-23-2003, 02:33 PM

DennyLou,
First, welcome to the boards!
Second, we all understand what you are feeling, and your emotions are normal when you hear this news. Unfortunately, it doesn't get easier, but that is where this board comes into play. Everyone here is so incredibly supportive and understanding. And it is awesome to come here and vent, vent, vent...away!

Good luck to you. I hope you can join your cousin very soon!
MrsR