OK - AF, I'm ready! lol - Infertility Message Board

Mindoo · 06-11-2003, 09:10 PM

Dear Aunt Flo,

Today, I ordered The Complete Idiot's Guide to Adoption. DH shocked me last night. He asked where I was in the pursuit of "child procurement". Besides this being a very funny choice of words, I didn't quite understand. I said are you talking about adoption or IVF. He said both. I thought he was against IVF, and I'm struggling with adoption. (I feel that it would be another 3 years, and that bio clock hasn't stopped ticking.) He stated he was fine pursing IVF as long as we simultaneously pursued adoption. So, since he came half way, I met him there, and then I ordered the book. It was recommended by the America Infertiltiy Association.

One good thing might result from adoption. If it happens, then I can let my PCO take over again, and I'll make you disapper for 6 months a time again. Good Riddance!

Aunt Flo, its been 27 days since you last visited me. And during this break month, dh and I had many decisions to make. Since we finally reached an agreement, I would like to go back to the doc next week. I'm going to ask about 5 questions before I finalize our decision. I think, since insurance pays for most of an IUI, I'm going to try my third an final IUI. I'm also going to schedule the IVF consult. The last IUI will give us time to arrange the financing.

I'm also thinking about driving either 1.5 hours south or east and going to the clinics in Columbus or Cincinnati. The success rates are so much higher in those clinics. I'm still undecided about the one I just started with in February. Infertiltiy treatmetns seems like a part time occupation to them. The first occupation is teaching.

It seems the closer I get to reaching a decsion about the future, the more questions I encounter. But even though it's taken us 27 days to reach an agreement, I think we reached one we are both happy with.

OK AF - I'm ready! Bring it on and don't be late this month! lol

Mindy

P.S. I think this silly letter resulted for fatigue. It's been 5 long, busy days. Good Night. Talk to you all tomorrow.

tazink · 06-11-2003, 10:01 PM

Mindy ~ that is great that you and DH met half way. Both my DH and I opted not to do IVF, the biggest reason, we can't afford it and after that we didn't want more than twins or triplets (we already have 2 children between us) and again we can't afford more than that. We talked about adoption, but again, we couldn't afford it. WE looked at going through state agencies and opted out of that also.

Here would be the kicker, you and DH spent all this time figuring out what to do and your aF isn't here yet, what if you are pg right now? What if you do IVF and you also adopt and have all these kids at once

That would be kinda cool I think. I went to grade school with a girl and a boy where her parents were in the process of adopting a little baby boy and the mom found out she was pg. They were only a couple of months apart in age and were in the same gerade. We all thought they were twins b/c they kinda looked alike...pretty cool

Anywho, now that I have typed an entire diary

Have a good night.

Amy

Mindoo · 06-11-2003, 10:18 PM

I think AF will show up. CD 27 is a little early for her. I'm usually 29 days the month after clomid.

Got to go. Will write more tomorrow. It's bed time and my cat is crawling all over keyboard.

Mindy

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MaryAnn1970 · 06-12-2003, 09:58 AM

COME ON AUNT FLO!!!!! Good to hear you and dh are meeting 1/2 way on this one. I have an ALL NEW RESPECT for my man!! He has been sooooo supportive through all this. Just when I want to give up he just keeps on pushing

It's soooooooo great to have all the love and support from our dh's. It's such a good feeling

MINDOOOOOOO

tazink · 06-12-2003, 11:28 AM

I am glad I am not the only one who has an obnoxious cat! mine has deleted posts that have taken me like 5 minutes to write! She is also a drooler YUK!

Hope AF comes!

taz