I can't believe people are still asking such insensitive questions nowadays. So sorry you are subjected to their need to know your personal business.
I'm a mom to a 21 and 16 year old (yea, I know I shouldn't even be in this section, but I certainly relate.) I tried for three years for my second baby and I can't tell you the times I would go to my room in tears because almost complete strangers would ask me such a personal question. I think the look of shock on my face from their question answered better than any words did.
If only these well-meaning busy bodies would realize that pregnancy doesn't come easy to everyone, I think they'd think twice before they open their mouths. I assume they figured because I had one baby that the next one should come along as planned. I guess the term "secondary infertility" wasn't in their vocabulary at the time. I even got the remark, "Don't wait too long, you don't want your kids too far apart!" To which I'd reply in an unamused way, "who says I'm waiting?" That left them speechless until they finally showed some compassion a minute later and actually "got it". But you shouldn't feel you have to give an answer to them, and why they feel compelled to butt into such personal business is beyond me.
I struggled again to get pregnant a third time, even took fertility drugs, and no luck; it was not to be. Get this though, when I would bring up the mention of wanting to have a third baby, I'd get looks like I was nuts! "What do you want another one for? You have two already?" http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/rolleyes.gif
Ya just can't figure these people out.
Now I get the question as to why I don't work outside the home now that the boys are older...and I tell them, "why should I work if I don't have to?" That always throws them!
In all actuality, we live on one paycheck and even though some times it's tough moneywise, we're getting along fine.
So I guess it never ends, people are always going to wonder why you don't do things that they think come easy or are the general rule. Me, I could care less how many kids my neighbor has, my sister-in-law has, etc. I know it's none of my business.
Best of luck to you and I only wish this board was around years ago when I needed support. This must be a comfort to know that others have walked in your shoes.
[This message has been edited by Dianek (edited 05-07-2003).]