Is anyone here with secondary infertilty? - Infertility Message Board

sammy05 · 07-31-2003, 10:05 PM

I was just wondering if anyone is having secondary infertility problems. I have read that secondary is more common that TTC#1. I conceived DS in 3 months so this is very frustrating now on our 12th month TTC#2. My RE has told me that the stars could have been aligned perfectly the first time and we got lucky. I want those stars and that luck back! Does IUI ever work??? I would be interested to know if anyone else is in my position right now with secondaru problems.
Thanks!

Blastoff9600 · 08-01-2003, 07:47 AM

I have secondary infertility. With our second it took over three years to finally get pregnant. Now I am going through it yet again....almost 20 months of ttc now.
But the nice thing is at least this time I have a reason for the secondary infertility.. The first time of the infertility was due to Depo Provera birth control....this time it is due to PCOS.
What is interesting is I am far more impatient this time that I was while ttc our second. With ttc for #2 it was about the 2 and half year mark in which I started avoiding baby sections in stores,avoiding pregnant friends,hated hearing news of new pregnancies and so on. This time it hit a lot sooner that I didnt want to be near baby sections in stores and dreaded hearing of new pregnancies.

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*~*~*~*To accomplish great things one must not only act but dream.*~*~*~*
DS~7 yrs old~ no problems ttc
DS~2 and half yrs old~ over 3 yrs of ttc
TTC #3 since 01/02

Tryingfor#2 · 08-01-2003, 08:02 AM

Hey Sammy,
I have secondary infertility, we have been trying for about 3 yrs., and finally getting aggressive about it since March 2003. I had my first cycle w/ clomid and am in the 1ww, but I really am feeling like BFN

I know the frustrations of it all, I always think well I have done this before why is it such a drama this time?!
It definitely sux, I know it makes it even harder when my 6 yr old DS constantly asks when he is going to get a baby bro or sis, or asks me why he doesn't have one?! I can't exactly explain this to him....I just tell him Mommy is going to the dr. to hopefully help us get a baby?! He looks at me like crazy, but at least it is some kind of explanation, even if it does sound weird!
What methods have you used so far?! Are you going to an RE or still in ob's care? What is the reason your not getting pg? Or is it Unexplained? Ours is a small combination of both of us, but dr.'s say it is not probs that would make it impossible to get pg, but obviously they must be a little wrong huh?! If nothing happens by Sept. they want to do a "hamster egg test" to see if DH swimmers can penetrate an egg, and if that comes back good than do a post coital, and if all is well there, then it looks like probably IUI!
Good luck on your journey let us know

Amber

sammy05 · 08-01-2003, 03:15 PM

Thanks for the repsonses. I feel like I am not the only one that is impatient!
I was on Clomid for about 10 months, and started with an RE about 3 months ago. I am now Repronex/IUI. In the 2WW and do not feel good about it. I should have gone to an RE sooner but I alsways thought "this will be the month." I think I might have to sit out next month if I get a BFN because I have a cyst that is good size. This is my 3rd cycle with RE.
Keep me updated on each of you!
Sammy

I Robertson · 08-02-2003, 08:24 AM

Hi Sammy - just read your post - I had secondary infertility problems after losing my 1st preg. It took 2 years of TTC to get pg but unfortunately had a m/c. We tried for another 2 years and got lucky (my daughter is now 6) and then for absolutely no reason I have had no further fertility issues. In fact my son (now 4) was concieved in the 1st month, likewise last year got pg 1st month but again had m/c. Within the month of having the m/c I was p/g again and had my gorgeous son William 10 days ago. I had lots of tests and they always came back with 'no specific reason' - I really to this day do not understand why it took so long TTC to get pg. If anything I thought when you are younger I was 21 yrs at the time it should be easier but in my case not. I ma now 29 years old. My docs/fertlity consultants have offered no explanation either. My dh sperm was strong with good motility and I had normal hormone levels for ovulation - albeit form memory I was not ovulating every month - but I think that is pretty normal. Do not give up - the good thing is that at least you know you have done it once so I am sure it will happen again. But I remeber how frustrating it is playing the waiting game. A month seems like such a long time to wait to see if it has worked and then waiting for another month when it doesn't. I have been in your shoes - in fact a number of my friends have too and veen though its scary when a couple of years go by it will happen eventually - take heart from my experience and your re advice that there is no reason why eventually it won't happen. Fingers crossed for you and every one else too.