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Old 10-24-2003, 05:33 PM   #1
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Making a very long story as short as possible... me and my SIL have had a few falling out's in our time. From the day I met my DH to the time we were engaged I felt as though she hated me.

Well I got engaged in April 2000 and planned my wedding for November 2001... in the mean time she met a guy, got pregnant by him, then he finalized his divorce, then asked her to marry him. They had there wedding in May of 2001 and the baby in September of 2001 (all this before I got married). So basically I feel as though she took my whole engagement/wedding away from us.

I also feel as though she got prego on purpose becuase I remember a time we were together with DH nana and the nana said to me and DH "oh you two are going to give me my first great grandchild" (becuaes we openly discussed having children right away) and my SIL heard and came over like a child and said "you better not like thier child better than mine just because she is first" I was horrified!!!

Well two IUI's and 1 IVF later I am still not pregnant. Approx 6 months ago I finally have been able to get over the whole thing, however, this is where it gets sticky...

His parents bought us airplane tickets to Florida and paid for the hotel (all because my niece likes minnie mouse) so I am going away this Friday to Florida iwth the inlaws (mom, dad, sister, sister husband, thier step son, thier daughter, me and my husband). I didn't want to go in the first place becuase why put yourself in a situation, but husband made me feel bad and I said ok.

Well, yesterday I got the news that my SIL is pregnant again. I feel so sick to my stomach. Any advice out there on how to handle this. There are so many more horror story's with her, but I tried to keep this short hahaha...

My husband is not good in the supporting area iether so that doesn't help the situation. Wish I could get out of this but I can't and I just found out on the 12th (less than two weeks ago) that I was not pregnant from and IVF cycle. We leave this Friday ughhhhhh

 
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Old 10-24-2003, 06:27 PM   #2
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I feel sooo bad for you I can understand to a certain point .. My DH and I got married almost 2 years ago and we started ttc under a year ago well found out progestrone is low ( getting that taken care of now ) Thank God. But anyways My SIL got married dec of 2002 and now has a baby 9 months later .. At first I was upset and then I just felt horrible for feeling sooo bad ( some bad feelings between both of us ) soooo when my husband called his family and they told him she had a baby he wanted me to talk to her ( she asked for me ) and say congrats I said! NOOOOO Way!!!!!!!!! and then the next day I called her I felt bad.. I felt like she was trying to throw it in my face ( her having a baby and all ) but she was nice with me .. sooo much more .. sooo yep i know how you feel... ... Just have faith and all will be great! I am sure.. anyways I do wish you LUCK on this Trip and just be nice and if she says anything bad to you.. smile and walk away.. Yes yes yes I know that sounds hard but kill her with being nice! and congragulate her!!! seriously I will pray for you also ..
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Old 10-25-2003, 05:24 PM   #3
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Thank you jcrew... so kill her with kindness. I think you are right and that is what I am going to do.

I will try my best not to let anything she says/does bother me (well, try not to show that it's bothering me) and just be kind.

I know people reading this are thinking there are so many more important things to worry about with all this infertility stuff, why even go to the INLAW subject, but I needed some input and I am glad you answered.

What is funny is I only asked one person that I know advice on this (my close friend, who actually knows me and my SIL) and she said the same thing... kill her wtih kindness, so that is the route I am going to take! Thanks again

 
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iam sooo happy to hear you will take that route let me know what happends
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